Brotherhood Bows Scholarship

As many do, there were a few times in my educational career that really didn’t feel fair and I thought how easy it would be to just stop caring. The first event was when my mom was involved in an accident where a distracted semi driver ran a stop sign and struck the driver’s side of her vehicle. My mom suffered major injuries that would change her life forever. However, we were lucky too because that collision could’ve been fatal. It would have been easy to use the accident as an excuse to let my grades slip and my homework slide. However, I was able to persevere through hard work with a sense of grit to overcome obstacles that I had learned from my mom. Little did I know it would prepare me for another time when I had to do the right things versus the easy. Two years later my dad was impacted by a liver disease. My dad had known this for years, but as he got more ill from his autoimmune disease it was time for a transplant. My family was blessed to have a family friend agree to donate part of his liver to my dad. I was around 14 during the time of the surgery. The transplant went well but like most surgical procedures of this magnitude, the recovery was long and many additional hospital visits were needed afterwards. For about a year and a half my dad had visited the hospital multiple occasions for long periods of time with my mom by his side. I was old enough that sometimes I would be at home taking care of my younger siblings and getting them ready for school. This was huge for me because it taught me responsibility and resilience in such a difficult time. Again, it would have been easy to let my schoolwork, behavior, or other commitments slide. My understanding teachers and coaches at Kickapoo probably would have even understood the situation and would have cut me some slack. However, I pushed through this difficult situation with my family and added to the resolve and work ethic that I had already acquired that has shaped me into the person I am today. Both of these situations were very tough on my family and I wouldn't have wished them on anyone else. However, my mom, dad, brother, sister, and I were an extremely loving and close family before these events and those bonds have only grown stronger since. We have taken turns supporting and motivating each other throughout and will continue to do so in the future. This strong foundation I have in my family will always be there as I work through college, my career, relationships, and life in general. However, I know that my family will not always be able to be there instantly or with me every step of the way. These traumatic experiences have also instilled confidence, a strong work ethic, and a sense of "grit" that can only come from life experiences such as these. I've been through tough times, I know there will be more in the future. I also know that these events will pass if you keep pushing and working through them. I've learned that everyone has a story and you have no idea what others may be dealing with. My story contains many peaks and valleys. I've learned to embrace the good times and celebrate them with my support system - my family. I've also experienced several major low times and through those experiences have gained the traits I believe will help me to be a more resilient, understanding, and hard working adult in the future.

In 2016 I lost my brother Joey to depression. Joey was 13 years old and I was 11. In February of 2017, two months after losing my brother, my mother, Jackie Patterson, underwent surgery for breast cancer and chemotheraphy. This was her second bout with breast cancer. In September of 2017 my family lost our house in Hurricane Irma. We are still homeless from Irma. My entire high school years were spent in a five wheel trailer on our property hoping and praying that our house would be rebuilt and possibly our lives. You never get over the death of a loved one. Our entire family structure was shattered from my brother's passsing. I was unsure if my mom was going to make it after her cancer diagnosis. Losing our home added to the trauma and difficulty of trying to be like the other students in my school. There were days that the weight of everything was more than I felt I could handle especially losing my best friend, my brother Joey. In 8th grade my language arts teacher asked us right before Thankgiving to write what we were thankful for. I remember I wrote "I am thankful that my mom is still alive." My mom is the most influential person in my life and my support person. She is the true definition of perservence in the face of adversity. She continued to teach her students after my brother's death and during and after her cancer surgeries and treatment, My brother and I were students in my mom's classroom several years as we attended a small school. My mom has worked at the same school for 27 years and has been named teacher of the year 6 times, most recently three years ago. My mom is loved by her students, their parents, and our community for her dedication and devotion to the students and families she has served throughout the years. I have learned how your life can be changed in an instant. I have learned that even when your heart and spirit are broken you must go on and continue to make a difference in the lives of others. My mom has shown me and everyone in our community what it looks like to continue to help inspire others to overcome obstacles. I am going to take classes in psychology and public speaking to pursue motivational speaking. My mom likes to write and people often relate to what she has to say. I can proudly say I continued my education and pursued my high school goals and achieved them. I carried a 3.7 GPA through high school while building resiliency and navigating the best I could. Having endured this challenge, I will continue to serve others in my own unique way. If I can share my story and save just one person from leaving this world I will have accomplished one of my goals. My brother Joey was an athlete, a straight A student, and great friend to so many. He hid his depression from the world. Suicide is increasing in today's youth. There needs to be an awareness in the area of mental health. Maybe that awareness can come from me. Also, if I can tell someone to never give up hope during a cancer battlle, I may provide motivation for those struggling with illness or those who have to see a loved one battle illness. Be loving. Be compassionate. Be involved in your community. Help others.Inspire others. Keep going. These are the values my mom has passed on to me that continue to shape my life and goals. Thank you so much for your consideration. Sincerely, Matt Patterson