With clear blue skies, little wind, and a pleasant temperature, the day was almost too perfect. I was about nine years old and had been playing golf for a couple of years now. With multiple tournaments on my resume, I'd learned that I could play well, but there was always tough competition. And his name was Avery.
Being just about half a year older than me, we almost always played in the same age group at all of our tournaments. Every time I played with Avery, he scored better than me. Since the beginning, I'd always been very competitive, so this got on my nerves. All I wanted was to be able to beat him. And that day was the greatest opportunity I had.
It was a 9-hole game since we were junior golfers. Usually, Avery would slowly trickle ahead by creating a gap in our scores one or two strokes at a time. This time, I kept up. We had been neck and neck until hole 6. This marked the point where I changed things, where I broke free. I teed off first, playing my ball right in the middle of the fairway about 30 yards from the hole, an ideal shot. Avery went next, cutting the ball into the trees. I had a chance! I watched Avery take a couple more swings to make it back into play. After finishing the hole, I'd gained a lead of a few strokes. I was feeling confident. The thing about confidence, it's a slippery slope.
I was in over my head going into the next hole. My grin bore from ear to ear. Avery, while obviously disappointed, did not falter in his actions. He stayed calm and composed. Teeing off, I swung with all the confidence in my existence and chunked it. Avery played a well-placed ball. I felt I could fix my mistake and keep myself in the lead, but after my next swing, I was in the trees. I'd started to feel the pressure.
I looked ahead at a cascade of trees towards the green. In this time of crisis, I needed to go for it. My chances were low, but my aspirations were higher. After I swung, the ball dropped out of the leaves, just like my confidence and happiness. Swing after swing, I couldn't escape. The world had cursed me to lose this chance.
In reality, it was a blessing for the growth of my maturity. After holing out, I bawled my face off. My own mental game had gone from skyrocketing to rock bottom. Reminiscing now, I'm positive my mom had to be so embarrassed with me crying in front of everyone. Avery even came to me and gave me words of encouragement. He showed true sportsmanship throughout it all. Playing the rest of the game out, Avery won again, but I gained an exceptional life lesson.
From then on, even with my immensely competitive spirit, I did my best to stay humble and focus on my actions. Being so wrapped up in somebody else only leads to your own mind unraveling. Focusing on myself was the key. I couldn't get too overconfident. I needed to stay focused in times of need. Applying this to every aspect of my life, I learned to excel. At school, I held consistent straight A's. At home, I spent lots of time enjoying activities with my family. I even gained a lot of friends. I plan to continue this through university, career, and retirement. I'll always keep myself in check.