I have struggled with mental health for most of my life. My mom used to ask me, "how could I have done better?" but it wasn't her fault. She's a single mom and moved to America before my sister and I were born. So there were struggles she'd never anticipated; nonetheless, she did a great job raising us.
Growing up, I was a mature kid, but I struggled to tell people how I felt, often closing myself off when something was bothering me—or overthinking every outcome of a decision I made. So I adopted behaviors that helped me when I got overwhelmed, things like closing my eyes and ears, counting, and focusing on my breathing. For years I thought it was normal for people to do that until I learned about mental health in 4th-grade health class. I learned what anxiety and depression do to people and that it wasn't uncommon for students to have them.
As time passed, my friends and I began to lean on each other to help our mental health. We knew the signs of getting overwhelmed, what makes us anxious, and the signals of an anxiety attack. Together we created a safe environment and ensured that we always felt safe in times of need. It was hard, and we weren't always perfect, but we tried and knew we could count on each other.
As we got older, we entered middle and high school; some had moved away, leaving only three of us together. Life got more challenging, and our mental health suffered, we developed depression, and our anxiety worsened. It happened to our classmates, too, we were all struggling, and it seemed that there wasn't a way to help. My friends and I continued to talk about what we were going through and helped each other. But I was worried that my classmates didn't have relationships like that, so I started suggesting people talk to a counselor at our school more.
During that time, I realized there was a lot of stigma around mental health, and there weren't many people willing to talk about it. There were even times when I tried to speak to healthcare professionals about my struggles. But I was told I didn't have depression or anxiety because my symptoms didn't last long enough or weren't severe enough. It was disheartening to hear because I worked through my mental health with friends for years, but when I asked for help from an adult, I was told I "didn't need to worry." It made me realize that mental health is something we need to work on destigmatizing to ensure that when kids, teens, or adults ask for help, there is help waiting for them.
Although I'm not planning on becoming a mental health care professional, I did consider it when I thought about my future. I plan to become a veterinarian. For me, my pets are one of the biggest reasons for living. The pandemic affected us all, like many others, it meant that I was away from my support system. My mental health took a hit, but my cats were there to help me. For the first time in my life, I considered a time when I was gone. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life, sitting in my room, alone, wondering if I was helping anyone by continuing. But, my pets brought me back. They stayed with me at every point and helped me remember the best parts of myself, the parts worth saving. Some might say they didn't know my inner turmoil, but I know they saw my pain. They are the reason I am alive. And they are why I refuse to lose my battle with mental illness.