I was told to not try. I didn't have family backing me up, cheering me on, wanting me to continue my education. In fact, my family did the exact opposite. My mom graduated with a bachelor's degree while raising me while my dad dropped out during the first semester. My mom makes less than my dad and doesn't use her degree. She told me not to go, it's a waste of money, it's useless, my dad told me to move to his state and work at the factory he works at.
My parents separated when I was 6, uprooted from Michigan to Nebraska at 4, and back to Michigan at 6 after kindergarten. Sadly, this wasn't the first time my mom left my dad, but it was the last. When I was 2 or so, my mom left my dad and we lived out of a car, couch hopping occasionally, homeless for a short period before she went back to him, she had no choice. I started my education at a disadvantage, with no father in my life, and a disrupted life, we moved back to Michigan. My mom didn't have money so we moved in with my aunt, I went to 1st grade in a new city and state. I only got a few months in, maybe two, before we moved to a city 3 hours away, where I went to another 1st grade again, making it my second move in 5 months, my third school in 6. Here we lived until I finished the year, then, again, uprooted and moved an hour away into my mother's boyfriend's house, where we lived for another 3 or so years, another new school.
This story doesn't end here. My mom worked long hours, she was the only one, in a house full of 3 other adults, my mom's boyfriend, his friend, and his mother, she fully supported them and 5 children. this didn't last and soon she couldn't afford to pay for it, we lost the house to foreclosure and moved once again, thankfully we still lived close enough to my school so I didn't switch schools. Just three short years later, my mom had her third child and we moved again, I am now in my 5th school, entering into a new one in grade 7. Finally, my last school was 10-12th grade which I finished in two years instead of three, online. Thankfully this is my last move, but not the end of my story.
This part is hard to speak on but I had to overcome hardships at home, my moms now ex was not very kind to us and often would hit and yell at us. I put myself into school dreading the end of it, afraid to go home. My mom was unaware as she was at work all day and he was home. Once she found out, I was in 7th or 8th grade, she left him, and I was finally free from that after years.
These hardships made education hard for me, I was also dyslexic and it went undiagnosed, I was behind 2-grade levels in reading and spelling until the end of 4th grade. This made it exceptionally more difficult to keep up in all aspects of school. Though I did get much better at reading, spelling is still something I struggle with. Because of these being things I struggled with, I was surprisingly good at math, which is what I excelled in and chose to major in.
I will be studying finance or accounting this fall, expanding my knowledge on the topic of math. I love math and business and plan to open up a business of some sort using what I learned in my associate's degree in business administration as well as what I learn in the next two years to better prepare me. I want to show others that even with the hardships, anything is possible.
After getting married this summer, I learned that even with such a hard life, you can grow and change for the better. I want to work hard so that I can create a life for my family and myself
. Something that we can grow with and be stable in and hopefully something I can pass on to my children. I want to become stronger and someone my family can rely on and look to when they are in need. My goal is to open something involving books, an antique shop possibly, something that reduces waste and shows others things from the past and different cultures.
I am willing to devote my life to creating a better life for my family, my husband also had a rough childhood, moving around often. I want to create something he will be proud of. Even with the drastic change that just happened, as I just moved 4,000 miles alone, driving through Canada, I want to achieve my goals no matter the circumstances, no matter what stands in my way. Life doesn't stop for anyone, it is full of unpredictable changes that can be good or bad and your life is what you make it out to be, I will make the most of mine.