Growing up in Queens, New York as an African American with Jamaican heritage was quite easy for me. My school had a tight-knit community, so I knew everyone from elementary to high school. However, everything changed during the middle of 10th grade when my family bought a house in the predominantly white suburbs of Lake Ronkonkoma on Long Island. Moving to a different area was more challenging than I had anticipated, especially when it came to continuing my education at my new school. I felt like a ghost during my first few months there, as I didn't know anyone and no one seemed to care to know me. This feeling of being left out was new to me, as I always knew the people around me when I lived in Queens. I didn't know how to move past this stage in my life, and for an extended period, I never once came out of my shell. Unfortunately, I made no effort to meet new people due to the intimidation of a new environment.
However, I realized that I was a naturally shy person when it came to new people, which was something I never thought of while living in the city. Before moving, I never had to "make friends" because everyone was familiar, and as nice as that sounds, I missed out on an important skill; socialization. I viewed my lack of socialization skills as a learning curve and an opportunity to meet new people. During my lunch period, I would ask students if I could sit with them, and although there were times when I got turned down, I didn't let it discourage me. Eventually, I found a group of girls in my grade that were happy to let me sit with them. For the remainder of the school year, I sat with them, and through them, I made mutual friends. In my PE class, I met a junior, and we bonded over similar interests. She even introduced me to other people, and she became a close friend of mine. We still talk today, even though she has graduated.
My anxiety about coming to school diminished as I became more comfortable with my peers and mentors. Later in my high school years, I was able to make valuable relationships with my teachers and make friends with not only my peers but also upperclassmen. This novel experience revealed to me that life stops being "perfect" to teach a lesson so that you can get out of your comfort zone and build character. Being the new kid has taught me how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable, and as a result, I have found an interest in networking when I enter my college years. Networking will open numerous doors for me and benefit me during my journey to become a pediatric neurologist. I am grateful that I learned this skill in high school so that I am set for success in college and my career.