My mom is the biggest role model in my life. My mom is an Asian Pacific islander born and raised in Hawaii. Up until she turned ten years old, my mother had a happy childhood. When my mom turned ten, her younger brother was born. Usually, the birth of a child in the family is a happy moment for everyone, but not for my mother. My grandparents spoiled my uncle while my mom was forced to take on the role of an adult. Her childhood was cut short. Since her parents now favored her brother, they could never be upset with him. As a result, my mom was physically and mentally abused by her mom every time she did the smallest thing wrong. Accidentally break a dish? Get beat up. Not finish all your chores on time? Get beat up. At one point, the abuse got so bad that my mother was rushed to the hospital after my grandma hit her on the head with spiked high heels. She could've bled to death, and my grandma didn't care. My mother endured this abuse until she got married at nineteen. Unfortunately for her, this was not the end of her abuse. The man she married physically and mentally abused her for the next six years of her life. This man almost broke her spine at one point. She still has a lump in her back where her spine nearly broke. During one of those years, she was homeless and had to put my half-brother in a foster home. Although her parents knew what was happening to her, they didn't let her come home. When she turned twenty-six on July 4th, she received her divorce papers in the mail. To this day, she calls those papers "the best birthday present she has ever received." Two years later, she got married to the man that is now my dad and is no longer suffering at the hands of abuse.
I have learned so much from my mom. She's taught me simple everyday tasks such as cleaning, cooking, and taking care of myself. She's taught me not to accept abuse and how to defend myself. If I ever find a partner, she's taught me what to look for so that I don't have to endure what she went through. She's shown me what can happen as a result if a child is spoiled too much. She's supported and loved me in everything I do, as long as it's good. She's been a good role model by explaining to me if I did something wrong and how to fix it instead of getting angry and yelling. If I ever plan to become a parent, I know how to treat my children. Although I appreciate all of my mom's lessons, the biggest thing she has taught me is how to respect myself. When she was being abused, she thought that she was to blame. I've learned that not putting up with abuse shows self-respect more than anything. She's also taught me the lesson of forgiveness. In 2019, my grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, so my mom had to take care of her. Despite the abuse my mom went through, she never harmed my grandma or got angry with her. If anything, my mom cried as my grandma's health started deteriorating. My mom also told me stories about her time working as a CMA. I plan to become a travel nurse because of her stories.
My main goal right now is to get my BSN. Although I have no interest in finding a partner, my mother's lessons about what to look for in a partner have taught me to be patient. They say good things take time; this applies to patience. Through patience, I've learned how to be a good listener. I've made many friends because of my listening skills. I also have a reputation for offering good advice because I've learned to be patient. Patience will help me in the medical field if I work late nights and is required if I'm going to work with many different people. I need to be level-headed in my future career; being patient helps me. If I plan to work night shifts, there is a chance that I might be attacked. Since my mother has taught me how to defend myself, I don't fear being physically harmed by another person as much as I normally would. I feel confident and ready to go into college and pursue my career goal. I know that I will feel safe on campus because of what my mom has taught me; for that, I'm forever thankful. Her lessons of forgiveness have taught me to be kind, even when someone has wronged me. Often, people will react out of anger and cause more problems. Kindness is becoming more difficult to find. Kindness is crucial in the medical field. A reputation as an angry nurse will not land me a job.
Once I receive my degree, I plan to travel to foreign countries and provide medical attention to the less fortunate. I want to work with children, adults, and the elderly. I plan to pass on the knowledge that my mom has given me to others. I want to show unconditional love towards my patients to make up for what my mother lost during her childhood. I believe that everyone needs to be loved, even if they've harmed others in the past. Everyone deserves a second chance at a better life. People need to know that it's never too late to change their ways. I also hope to inspire other people from foreign countries to become involved in the medical field or pursue a meaningful career. Domestic abuse is a problem in all countries. I plan to give back by educating both men and women about the effects of abuse and how to prevent it. If not for my mom, I would not be the person I am. I'm very blessed to have her around.