"You're amazing."
The words were said with so much admiration, so much hope. Her face reflected the same anticipation as her voice and suddenly I couldn't look her in the eyes anymore. I wasn't used to that level of sentiment from her. At the time I thought it was new, but it must have been something I had just never perceived before, because now I find it in every stare and hear it in every word. That's not to say that my mother has never complimented me before, she has always been proud of me. The bragging to her friends and any adult who would listen never ceased to embarrass me. I always hated it, believing that she was offending the receiving party. Surely she had other things she could discuss with them? Something about herself, perhaps?
"I don't have a life outside of you."
There was no malice, no regret. Just a statement, almost a joke, said while she was in bed, drowning in the sheets enveloping her shorter stature while I was standing across the room, freshly dressed and groomed for an outing. As she looked at me, with that same hopeful look in her eyes, those words heavy in my chest, my world froze again.
Jokes are always riddled with some level of truth, and this is one that has been hard for me to swallow. Having me took away her life.
My mother was a child raising a child, a mere teen when she took me on as a responsibility. I am a reflection of my mother's hard work, her waylaid dreams, and forgotten goals - I am my mother's life and she is my motivation. My motivation to get the most out of life that I possibly can. For me, and for her. I want, no, need to grab every opportunity that I can and experience everything that life has to offer. Everything that my mother wasn't able to. Everything that she gave up for me. That's the goal I've set for myself, and I will stop at nothing to achieve it. I will go farther than she did, not because I am better, or have more talent, or even more potential, but owed to the fact that I have been given an opportunity. I was given something that she wasn't. Her.
One of the many things that I've learned from her is that you don't waste opportunities. When you see one, you take it, and you fight for it like your life depends on it. This road I'm taking is bound to be long and perilous, but as Melia Keeton Digby wrote, "Mothers and daughters together are a powerful force to be reckoned with."