I’ve danced Bharatanatyam since I was five, a form as demanding as it is beautiful and has shaped my mindset, discipline, and resilience more than anything else. My teacher was terrifying at first(honestly, she still is): strict, sharp, and absolutely unrelenting. Bharatanatyam is an ancient Indian classical dance form that demands grace and years of rigorous physical and emotional training to even become average. My teacher didn’t smile often, never handed out compliments, and pushed me to the edge of what I thought I was capable of, again and again.
When I was younger, I dreaded her strictness. While my friends had dance teachers who brought snacks and cheered, mine circled like a hawk, correcting every gesture, every step. I cried after practices. I once begged my parents to let me quit. But they told me to wait and see. So I stayed. Over time, I stopped flinching at corrections and started listening. Slowly, something changed.
I began to see the full picture: how she would stay late after every single class, unpaid, to help us perfect our routine. How she went any length for any student. How she would always be mentally dancing with us on stage, seeing our journeys from toddlers to seniors, with pride in her eyes. And how, underneath the tough exterior, was someone who fiercely believed in us and never let us settle for average.
The turning point came at a major solo performance. I had practiced endlessly, but I froze onstage and forgot the middle portion of my routine. I finished the routine, swearing I wouldn't join another performance for the rest of the season. Afterward, I expected disappointment, refusing to meet anyone's eye. But she looked straight at me and said, “You failed. And if you’re going to fall apart every time something goes wrong, maybe you’re not meant for this.” That sentence hit like a slap. But it's also when she taught me what failure meant, not as a dead end, but as a challenge to grow from.
Now, I run a nonprofit where we teach Bollywood and Bharatanatyam to younger kids in communities. We donate proceeds to support children’s education in rural India. I teach them dance, but more importantly, I teach them what my coach taught me: discipline, perseverance, and pride in your progress. I’m not always soft. I expect them to work hard. But I never let them give up on themselves. I stay late. I go over tough sections again and again. I show up, the way she always showed up for me.
Dave Sutton was known for being a tough coach with a huge heart. He believed in lifting his athletes both on and off the field. He expected the best from them because he cared deeply. That is exactly the kind of coach I had, and the kind of mentor I’m trying to be. Whether I’m teaching dance, mentoring peers, or organizing events at school, I try to lead with purpose, heart, and resilience.
What I once thought was criticism, I now see as the highest form of belief. My coach taught me that greatness isn’t built through comfort, but through challenge. She gave me the tools to overcome fear, doubt, and failure, and passed on a legacy that I now get to continue.
This scholarship honors a coach who changed lives by challenging and believing in his students. I’m proud to say I’ve been shaped by someone like tha, and that I now carry those same values forward. Not just in dance, but in how I lead, how I teach, and how I live.