Golf is the only sport I know where the loudest competition is going on inside your own head.
There are no cheering crowds, no constant flowing movement, and no teammates making play calls. It’s about you, the course, and your thoughts. It’s about you, and every swing of your club represents your focus, your patience, and your confidence at that very moment. And for that, I fell in love with golf. It’s not just a sport; it’s mental, it’s strategic, and it’s personal.
I rather enjoy golf because, in a small way, it encourages discipline. Improvement doesn’t happen in a matter of a few days. There is a possibility of practicing golf consistently over a course of weeks simply to attempt to deduct a few strokes from your final scoring. It encourages you to rejoice at small success – a neater iron stroke, a choosy club choice, or a put that initially you’d have probably miss. Golf, I reckon, has been beneficial in helping me realize that improvement is incremental and consistency is key, rather than flashes of brilliance.
But being a woman golfer has its downside, too.
Golf spaces often feel incredibly male-dominated. I've walked onto ranges where I was the only girl practicing. I've been paired with groups who just assumed I was a beginner, or didn't hit very far. And sometimes it wasn't out loud — it's just those surprised glances when I drove the ball past their expectations, or kept pace with an experienced player. At first, those moments made me feel like I had something to prove.
It took some time, really, to realize I didn’t have anything to prove; I just needed to play my game.
Learning to tune out stereotypes and outside ideas or opinions was probably one of the most important things that golf helped me develop as a person. Confidence on the golf course can mean everything. It’s like I always say: if you’re not confident on the tee box, you’re losing before you even make the swing. I was learning to mentally toughen myself, believe in my own training, believe in my own swing, and not let others’ ideas or assumptions get the best of me. This same level of confidence allows me to stand up more in class, take on more prominent roles, and venture into situations where I may not necessarily see people like me represented or around me.
The other challenge has simply been balancing the time aspect. Golf, as I mentioned, requires practice over time, involves early morning wake-up calls, lengthy games, and precision. There were many days when I was tired from juggling school work, training, and other responsibilities. However, golf helped me learn how to manage and be accountable. To improve at golf, I had to give it my all, and this is a big lesson in all I set out to accomplish.
What I love most about it is that golf truly reflects life: You can have a perfect shot and still find yourself landing in a bunker. You may make a mistake and get it right the next swing. It just takes one bad hole not to define your whole round, much like one setback does not define your future. Golf is always forcing me to reset, take a new perspective, and keep going.
It has taught me to be resilient, confident, and self-reliant as a female golfer. I have learned to take up space, trust my abilities, and compete without shrinking myself. Every obstacle on this course has made me stronger outside of the course.
That's why I play.