“Degajew” is probably the first word you’d hear in Haiti. From Haitian Creole, it loosely translates to “figure it out,” and it’s a model the Haitian people live by. On my first day of my first visit to Haiti, my family and I needed to find dinner. In Haiti, if you say “degojew mange,” they will get you food or water, no questions asked. You’ll get invited to dinner with their whole extended family just to make sure you eat. That first day, my family were the ones figuring out dinner. Driving through the streets, everyone had a close connection to their community and nature. Whether it was the farmer selling mangos or the butcher with goats and turkey, each one filled a niche. The meal for the night would be turkey, but instead of meat, we got a live turkey and put it in the trunk. As the youngest in the family, I sat in the backseat while the turkey pecked at my hair. I looked back at it, and it had laid down from the potholes tossing the car around. Whether from the stress or heat, I remember the turkey winking at me. That would be the last time I saw it before it made its way onto my plate—my first meal in the home where my father grew up.
Growing up, my parents always knew someone. Whether at the grocery store or on the street, we’d stop for what felt like hours to talk to a friend who knew me when I was half my size. Nowhere was this more true than in Haiti. The butcher had grown up with my dad. A couple walking down the street had their wedding cake made by my grandmother and were married by my grandfather. Everyone knows everyone. This intimate community made the phrase “degajew” even more powerful. People didn’t just figure things out for themselves—they did it for each other. The next day we got on a tap-tap (a taxi) and drove to the beach. On the way, someone’s car broke down, and with the help of a few people, it was pushed uphill and out of the way. By figuring it out together, people build appreciation for others and for themselves. I had never selflessly helped people just for the sake of it. That spirit of care explained my surprise at the closeness between people and animals—there’s love and respect for all living things.
Helping others simply because they matter creates community. When people “degajew” for you, they do it in the moment without expecting anything in return. It’s a word I strive to live by. Little by little, I hope to gain the independence to figure things out for myself and others. In a world always rushing toward the future or stuck in the past, figuring things out in the present has given me perspective. By living this way, I observe, question, and solve—not just for myself, but for anyone who needs it.