One hungry, disheveled, stranger after the next came before me. Each soul with a face weathered and tired. I would extend my small hand across the table to each one in line offering either a banana or orange. These fruits were the most agreeable for so many of those with dental ailments. In all seasons of weather, I would stand with my mother at the homeless missing on the fourth Sunday of every month at the Knoxville Area Rescue Mission.
Since the age of eight, I remember purchasing fruit with my mother and serving the homeless. I always had questions throughout the years about the people that would come through the serving line. My mother would answer my questions as she felt was developmentally appropriate. Several years ago after a day of serving, I told my mother that I did not want to go anymore. She finally shared with me her passion for volunteering at the mission was due to her own battle with food insecurity as a child.
From a young age, my mother influenced and encouraged me in so many ways. Her history of overcoming childhood poverty, divorce, and caring for a special needs child, has influenced me to be strong, independent and pivotal. For every lesson of resilience I have learned from her, there is another equally important about being kind, forgiving and true. The example of her life has been both a quiet nod to the feminine side of who I strive to be but also a scream to the fighting nature that inherently lives inside of me.
The value of education and hard work are the core of how my single mother influences me every day. She encouraged me throughout my school years to work hard and do my best each day. My mother often shared her belief that education creates opportunities that aren't possible with out it. I've often been inspired by what she overcame growing up to obtain a Master's degree and have her own mental health practice. Her professionalism with her colleagues, employees, and patients gives me overwhelming pride. It's as if no one would ever suspect all she balances in a day and all of the problems she tries to solve for so many. All the while, she is full of laughter and love for us all.
The mother, person, and professional she is inspires to me also become a mental health professional. Hundreds of discussions in my childhood, I now know, are flavored by her mental health education. She has been kind, consistent, open-minded, fair, and honest. Despite the topic, she has been the type of mother that any conversation was open. Of course, she would get upset with me or my siblings, but she was always fair. Teaching us the self-imposed consequences of our behaviors was a smart tactic that provided us necessary critical thinking skills for life.
As a single mother, my mother often had to be both mother and father for me and my siblings. She has always shared we are no less or no more because of our father's absence. A core value for our family she provided for us is "a family is anything that defines itself as such". This lesson has influenced me to see diversity, inclusion, and self-acceptance. My own desire to be a mental health professional is influenced by my mother. I want to serve others as she has taught me to do since I was a young child. My personal, educational, and familial ambitions are because of who my mom has influenced me to be in life.