You Have To Be Kidding Me!
By Shea Svendsen
Senior year. The awkward struggles of the previous three years forgotten. It’s what we all look forward to as we enter high school. The promise of a less grueling schedule, off campus lunch, prom and graduation. These are just a few of the magical ideals surrounding senior year. What I did not expect was the enormous black cloud that was about to descend over my family and my home.
Junior year. Man, was it difficult. Don’t get me wrong, I love school. I honestly love it. I even want to be a middle school teacher…that’s how much I love school. But back to the finale of junior year. Sleeping in that first morning of summer was glorious. I’ll never forget it. Nor will I forget the information my parents shared with my brother and I that afternoon: my dad was just diagnosed 10 days earlier with stage 3 throat cancer. This is the stuff of nightmares but even in my worst nightmares, I never imagined this. My dad and my brother (who is 20 months younger than I) found humor in joking about the very large tumor. Did it have hair? Should they name it? I get it, they are boys and humor is their coping mechanism. I, on the other hand, turned to my mom with tears streaming down my face. She said “Are you scared?” And all I could do was nod my head. She nodded her head and said “That’s ok Shea, I am scared too.” It’s funny now, in hindsight, how four people living under the same roof could have such different reactions to the worst news of your life.
This summer was going to be far different from any I had envisioned for myself. Gone were the careless days of sleeping in and just relaxing. Don’t get me wrong, there was a lot of just “hanging out” for my brother and I as my parents navigated biopsies, PET scans, oncology appointments, speech therapy lessons, dental surgery, daily radiation visits, and a host of other tests, appointments, and procedures. Phrases like “we have a great team of doctors helping your dad” quickly replaced the now mundane conversations of what we should have for supper or ideas for a day trip. Our lives were immersed in all things cancer. Well, until our house flooded a month later. Seriously. Over 200 gallons of water poured from our water heaters into our house. You cannot make this up. You have to be kidding me!
And that saying about things happen in threes. Yep. That is a fact. Our sweet dog, Tito, let out a strange cry one morning. My mom and I walked out to the sofa where he was curled up in “his spot” to find my dad holding him and telling him “it’s okay boy, it’s okay” but it was not okay. He was gone. In the blink of an eye. I said to myself “You have to be kidding me!” My dad has cancer, our house flooded, my sweet dog is gone. How is this happening and why? This is supposed to be the beginning of my senior year, the promised year of magical wonderment.
Fast forward to today, the final semester of my senior year, and I can honestly say that 2024 was a year of grief, worry, and incredible sadness but it was also a year when my family was shown incredible kindness and compassion. Those dark clouds that rolled in managed to have a silver lining. We had so many friends drop off meals, which my mom really appreciated since our kitchen was in complete disarray. It still is, 7 months later, but in the scheme of things, I’ll take my dad’s health over anything else.
I plan to attend Schreiner University in the Fall and start my journey of becoming a teacher. I want to stay close to home because if there is one thing this last year taught me it is that family truly is everything. As I am handed my diploma in a few short months, I will smile knowing how many hurdles I have overcome. I may even dance at my prom with carefree abandon. We will see.