On April 22, 2026, the world became a significantly dimmer place. That was the day I lost Jon, a man who was, quite simply, the most beautiful soul I have ever encountered. To the world, Jon was a member of the LGBTQ+ community who lived with the heavy, often invisible burdens of bipolar disorder and depression. To me, he was the neighbor who became family, the protector of my cat, Jamaica, while I traveled for work, and the person whose laughter could cut through the stress of my busiest days as an engineer.
Jon was the kind of person who radiated light even when he was sitting in the dark. We met as neighbors in Orlando, and despite his personal battles, his capacity for care was unmatched. Even after he moved away, our bond remained unshaken. We were close—the kind of close where distance doesn't dilute the friendship. I knew he struggled, but I loved him fiercely through every peak and valley. His death has left a void that feels less like a hole and more like a permanent change in the atmosphere of my life.
Dealing with this loss has been an exercise in surviving the "unthinkable." Honestly, I am still in the thick of it. Seeing the prompt for this essay brought a fresh wave of the sadness that has become my constant companion over the last few weeks. I am doing the best I can, but the "best" often looks like just breathing through the anger. I am angry that he is gone. I am angry that the light he gave so freely to others couldn't stay lit for himself. I am sad that our future catch-ups and shared stories are now frozen in time.
However, amidst the grief, I found a small, bittersweet comfort. In speaking with his other friends after his passing, they told me that Jon spoke about me constantly. He held me in high regard; he loved me too. Knowing that the love I felt for him was fully reciprocated is a gift, but it also fuels my resolve to ensure his life—and his struggle—means something more than a statistic.
This loss has taught me that "checking in" is only the first step. I was the friend who checked in. I was the friend who loved him without judgment. But Jon’s passing taught me that individual love, while vital, cannot replace a broken systemic infrastructure. Everyone deserves to be loved and cared for, but they also deserve a mental health system that is as accessible as a grocery store and as robust as any other life-saving medical field. We need better systems in place to support those whose brains are fighting against them.
As a Black woman pursuing a career in law, Jon’s life and death have deeply influenced how I view my future work. I want to advocate for a society where mental health isn't a "hidden" battle fought in the shadows of a neighbor's apartment, but a publicly supported human right. Jon’s struggle with bi-polarism was a part of him, but it wasn't all of him. He was a person of immense value who deserved to grow old.
Overcoming this loss isn't about "getting over" Jon; it's about integrating his light into my walk. It has taught me to make time—not just "when I can," but intentional, prioritized time—for the people I love. It has taught me that in a world that moves as fast as a jet-setting engineer's schedule, we must slow down enough to look into someone's eyes and truly see them.
Jon was my light. And while I am angry he left me, I am eternally grateful he chose to be my friend. I will carry his name into my classrooms at ASU, into my future law practice, and into every conversation about mental health. I will make sure the world knows that we need to do better, because people like Jon are too precious to lose. I love you Jon and I hope I've made you proud down here.