I’ve always loved horror movies. Scream, The Shining, Halloween, The Craft—they never really scared me because I knew they weren’t realistic. No matter how terrifying they seemed on the screen, I could always turn off the TV and return to my normal life. But during high school, life threw me into a nightmare that I couldn’t switch off. It began when my brother passed away during my 7th-grade year. Soon after, I lost both of my grandparents, then my auntie. Suddenly, I wasn’t just watching horror unfold—I was living it.
Now, that nightmare has served as the fuel to my fire for the past 6 years. Horror movies taught me that even in a nightmare, there are ways to survive and grow. The nightmare of grief forced me to face hard truths, and in doing so, I gained valuable life lessons. Losing my loved ones taught me that life is fragile, and every moment counts. I realized I had to take control of my time and find healthy ways to cope. One of the most important characteristics of people who survive in horror films is the will to survive. I had that will.
I began to fill my life with activities that gave me purpose and connection. I took on the role of student ambassador at my school, leading efforts to ensure the school environment was welcoming for all students. I became captain of my volleyball team and a dance teacher in my church's dance ministry. Through these activities, I began to reclaim my life from the nightmare, finding strength in the very places I once felt trapped. Another thing I learned was the importance of human connection.
In horror films, there is usually safety in numbers. Splitting up or isolating almost always ends badly. Yet, this was my first inclination when I found myself in my nightmare. Initially, I turned inward to myself, instead of outward to my community, and it only made things feel darker than they already were. Eventually, I realized that I needed others. I joined a dance company, which allowed me to express my feelings in ways words couldn’t. I took up sports—volleyball, basketball, track, and karate—which pushed me to stay active and connect with others. I explored new interests to better understand myself. In doing so, I found that even in this nightmare, I could make progress. I learned to navigate the pain, using my time to build myself back up instead of letting the grief consume me.
Throughout my life journey, I realized that many of the battles I was facing were taking place overwhelmingly in my mind. My experience taught me that mental health challenges are often invisible, and many people carry emotional burdens that no one else can see. Living in Seattle also broadened my understanding of mental health. Growing up in such a diverse community allowed me to meet people from many different backgrounds, each with unique experiences and perspectives. I also witnessed how conversations surrounding mental health often differed across communities.
Within the Black community especially, I saw how stigma, limited access to care, and cultural expectations sometimes prevented people from seeking help. Watching others struggle in silence deepened my belief that mental health support should be accessible, culturally informed, and free of shame. These experiences ultimately shaped my career goals. Wanting to understand why people think, feel, and respond the way they do led me to psychology. As I learned more about the relationship between thoughts, emotions, and behavior, I began to understand not only my own grief but also the experiences of those around me.
Psychology gave me language for emotions I once couldn't explain and strengthened my desire to become someone who helps others navigate their own mental health challenges. Today, I no longer see my losses only as painful memories. They have become the foundation of my purpose. My experiences have taught me resilience, empathy, and the importance of human connection. They have shaped how I build relationships, how I understand the invisible struggles people face, and how I hope to serve others in the future.
I want to dedicate my career to expanding access to mental health resources, particularly in underserved communities, and helping people realize that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but an act of courage. Although grief introduced me to mental health through heartbreak, it also gave me a lifelong purpose: to ensure others never have to face their own nightmares alone.