“You know, it make the day when you come here,” my grandmother managed through her thick Arabic accent. “I don’t see you much.” My throat tightened. I forced a smile, squeezing her frail hand and meeting her hazel eyes obscured by thick eyeglasses. “I was here yesterday, Nana.” I swallowed back tears and reminded her. “You were? I don’t remember…” That wasn’t the first time we’d have that same conversation, nor would it be the last.
My grandmother's battle with Alzheimer's disease has had a profound impact on my life in countless ways. Watching her struggle with the symptoms of this debilitating condition has been both heart-wrenching and eye-opening. It has underscored the importance of cherishing every moment and demonstrated clearly the power of love, compassion, and patience in the face of adversity.
Growing up, my grandmother was a central figure in my life. Born Nazhat Babbie in Baghdad, Iraq in the early 1930s, she pursued a degree in chemistry before moving to the United States and meeting my grandfather, Yusuf Antone, another Iraqi immigrant. She had four children, sons Rafid, Ayad, Hedir, and my mother, Maha, and pursued a master’s degree in chemistry in her third language of English at Wayne State University. Her story was always an inspiration to me, and I admired her throughout my childhood. She was smart and engaging, and knew so much about math and science—I would often spend the afternoon doing homework with her as she gently guided me through algebra and chemistry. I plan to pursue a degree in computer science and psychology in college, following in my grandmother’s footsteps as a woman in STEM.
I spent multiple days a week at my grandparents’ house, and my grandmother was always there with a warm hug and endless amounts of love. She was an amazing cook, her specialty being the traditional Iraqi meal kubba hamouth. Every Sunday, we would gather there for a big family dinner, and she always made sure that everyone had full stomachs and hearts. A quietly compassionate and kind woman, my grandmother has a list of her large extended family’s birthdays—with over fifty people on the list—and calls them to wish them well on their special days each year. These days, she calls each of us several times on our birthdays, forgetting the previous conversation within minutes of hanging up the phone.
However, as she began to show signs of Alzheimer's, her once-vibrant personality began to fade. It was a slow and emotionally painful process, watching as she gradually lost connection with names and faces. It has been especially difficult seeing her struggle to recognize her own grandchildren. When my grandfather, who also struggled with dementia, passed away in November 2021, it was painful to see the look on her face each day when she was reminded that he was no longer with us, enduring that loss again and again.
Despite these challenges, my grandmother's battle with Alzheimer's has also brought out the best in those around her. My family has come together to provide her with the care she needs, and I have been inspired by the selflessness and patience of those closest to her, including her caregivers, who over the years have come to be members of our family as well. In a time of crisis, we have been reminded of the value of community and the strength that can be found in supporting one another. My ever-resilient mother has taken it upon herself to spend time each day with my grandmother, taking time out of her schedule to ensure that she is healthy and organizing all her medications, caretakers, and doctor’s appointments so that my grandmother can stay in their family home without being moved to a care facility. She, like her mother before her, is a great inspiration to me. Because of my grandmother’s illness, I have learned that the most important thing in life is the people you surround yourself with. My family has come together to support my grandmother and one another in a way that I never thought possible, and I have been humbled by their love and dedication. It has been a reminder that no matter what life throws our way, a loving community provides solace.
My grandmother’s Alzheimer’s has opened my heart to truly appreciate the time we have with our loved ones. I cherish every moment with her and have never taken a day spent with her for granted. I have learned that it is the small moments like holding my grandmother's hand and listening to the stories she used to tell that are the most precious. I make a point to spend time with her each week, playing Go Fish and going over her seven grandchildren’s names and photos in an effort to exercise her mind. Even as I tell her the same news of college acceptances each day, her excitement for me never fails to bring a smile to my face, and her support and love still mean the world to me. I have filmed and documented countless days spent with her, detailing her stories to ensure that her memory and voice are never truly lost and that my children can revere her just as I do.
I hope to help to spread awareness about Alzheimer’s by participating in local and national events that raise awareness about Alzheimer's and dementia, and donate to organizations that are working to find a cure. In addition, I plan to use the social media platform TikTok to raise awareness about Alzheimer's by sharing my grandmother’s story, documenting my visits and her joys and struggles, and garnering followers who are just as inspired by her as I am. On this account, I will promote donations to organizations supporting Alzheimer’s research and give comfort to those in similar situations. I believe that by sharing our stories and spreading awareness, we can create a community for those dealing with Alzheimer’s and provide support and comfort to those affected. I intend to continue to educate myself on the latest research and advancements in the field so that I can better understand the challenges faced by those affected by this condition. As I head to college to study computer science, I dream of one day using what I learn to help those affected by Alzheimer's. I would love to develop simulations and models of the brain to help better understand Alzheimer's disease in the hopes that it might lead to a breakthrough in treatments. I also envision creating apps that help exercise the mind of people with Alzheimer's to help them remember things and the people in their lives.
In conclusion, my grandmother's battle with Alzheimer's disease has changed my life in countless ways. It has taught me the importance of cherishing every moment, the power of compassion, patience, and unconditional love in the face of adversity, and the strength that can be found in community. I am grateful for the time I have spent with my grandmother, and I am committed to raising awareness about Alzheimer's and dementia in order to make a difference in the lives of others.