By allowing others to influence and discourage you through their destructive actions, you are allowing them to inhibit your potential and causing them to define your success. By recognizing your ability to overcome those challenges, you are able to maximize your potential by allowing yourself the opportunity to succeed.
From day one, I haven’t had a good influence. My parents separated early on in my life, causing me to constantly shift between homes due to court regulations. I spent years in and out of court rooms talking to many judges behind closed doors about what life was like at home in an attempt to give one parent more custody over the other. Eventually I began spending more time with my father and visiting my mother every so often. My father was not college educated, nor was he driven. I watched as he frequently changed low paying unsuccessful jobs in an attempt to pay the bills. I knew he could do better, however, he refused to strive for the opportunity to be successful.
When I visited my mother, we spent most of the time getting screamed at or spent time sitting in our room shared between my sister and I in my mother’s two bedroom apartment. In that room where my sister and I spent days on end, we had a bucket of legos. The bucket was filled with countless unfinished lego set that we had collected from birthdays and Christmas’. In our boredom, my sister and I would challenge each other to build the most abstract things to complete little tasks with a small number of pieces. As a kid, that bucket seemed like nothing more than well a bucket of legos. I saw it as nothing more that something to keep me entertained. However, that bucket wasn’t just a bunch of mismatched sets, it was an escape. The countless hours spent entertained and perplexed about the fascinating things we could create from seemingly useless pieces taught us that just like the legos, we had so much potential. Our situations never changed, frequently only getting worse, but we began to understand that the situation we were in, wasn’t because of us, and that we shouldn’t let the restrictions that were put on us by others to influence the potential we chose to maximize.
Although my sister and I often fought with each other, we understood that we had to be there for each other. We grew up going to the same schools and taking the same classes. We chose to find a passion in our work and our studies, causing us to do relatively well inside of school and out. As we grew older, our view and perspectives differed, but we remained close. Last year, we spent what we thought was our last year together as she went off to college this year. It was hard to see someone who I had spent my whole life with, enduring the same abuse and struggles with, but also sharing each other’s happiest moments. When she came home from college for break this year, she spent her own free time to help me in my college application process because although it wasn’t fun, she knew she could make the process a little bit easier for me. We applied to many of my top choice colleges as well as the college she was attending, The University of Virginia, but had little hope of acceptance from there. After a couple of weeks, she flew back off to Virginia as her break was over. As my college decisions began coming in, I called her every chance I could with both the ups and downs of the decisions. After I had thought I had my mind made up of which college I wanted to attend, Texas A&M, I got and email from The University of Virginia. Admittedly, I had expected a denial, however I was overjoyed to see that they had accepted me. I immediately called my sister with the fantastic news and she was excited to say the least. We has both previously expected to spend the next few years halfway across the US from each other, but now, we would only be down the street rom each other again.
Although I was put in a bad situation as well as given role models who shouldn’t be followed, I was able to recognize my potential and choose to maximize my future instead of allowing the challenges I was faced with to define me and my future.