Selflessness, to me, is about stepping up when it matters most, even when emotions run high and the moment feels overwhelming. It’s choosing to focus on others because their needs matter just as much as your own. Michael Rudometkin’s legacy inspires me—he valued relationships and making a difference over personal gain. As Chapter Advisor for Alpha Kappa Psi at Canisius University, I’ve lived our values—brotherhood, knowledge, integrity, service, and unity—especially through the loss of my sister Damita Scrimini.
From the day I met Damita as her orientation leader, she felt like a little sister—bouncing with energy, always volunteering at community events, mentoring pledges, and making everyone feel at home. She had this vision, too, of opening an education dispensary one day, a place where people could learn about what they put in their bodies, understand safety precautions, and get second chances at jobs, especially for marginalized groups. Not everyone grasped her dream, but I think I did—she saw the reality of these substances and wanted education to guide people, not judgment. Three years ago, her fentanyl overdose hit like a shockwave. When I got the call, I’d just gotten home to unwind. In that instant, anger flared—frustration at the unfairness, the helplessness of losing her and another friend before her to the same cause. It was raw, right there in the moment, but I knew I had to push it aside. The chapter needed me, and my feelings couldn’t come first when everyone was hurting.
I dropped what I was doing and arranged catering for my brothers and sisters, covering the cost myself to give us a space to grieve together without worry. One brother, who’d been with Damita hours before calling first responders, was devastated, carrying guilt I couldn’t let him bear alone. I knew that weight all too well—having felt the same crushing burden after my own friend’s loss, I refused to let him face it solo. As co-advisors, we got him into therapy, paying for those without coverage, and set up group workshops to help everyone heal. One member said it kept him from giving up; that made it all worthwhile.
We kept going, determined to honor Damita’s memory and her vision. The chapter redirected that year’s funds to her funeral, and we alumni matched it, splitting the costs to support her family. I rallied alumni for a memorial, sharing her stories—including her dream of that education dispensary—which sparked service projects with overdose prevention groups to carry her ideas forward. As Advisor, I’ve coordinated events and built workshops to bring the chapter together, while mentoring members to strengthen our community.
Selflessness is about persevering for others, even when emotions hit hard. Like Michael, I find joy in lifting people up. This scholarship would fuel my MSc in Data Analytics to tackle issues like substance abuse with data, echoing Damita’s passion for education and second chances. Her spirit pushes me to keep building that connection.