Mental health was once a quiet thought in the back of my mind — something we didn’t really talk about growing up. But that changed the moment I became a mother. My son Jayden was diagnosed with ADHD and depression, and suddenly I was thrown into the world of evaluations, medications, and emotional support — all while being expected to hold everything together. As a Black mother in a Black household, I quickly realized how rare it was to have honest, judgment-free conversations about mental health. We often hear “pray about it” or “he’s just being bad,” but I knew better. I knew my son needed understanding, patience, and proper care — and I made it my mission to give him just that.
That experience ignited a passion in me. I wanted to learn more, do more, and be more — not just for my son, but for other families who don’t have the language or resources to name what they’re going through. It’s not easy navigating mental health as a Black family. We face stigma, lack of access, and cultural pressure to stay silent. But my son deserves better. Our community deserves better. That belief shaped my career aspiration: to become a licensed therapist specializing in women’s and family mental health — especially for mothers like me.
I decided to pursue a degree in Human Development because I wanted to understand the full picture — how people grow, what shapes our behaviors, and how early trauma can silently follow us into adulthood. I’ve always been fascinated by the “why” behind human behavior, and this program gave me the foundation to ask those questions in ways that lead to healing, not judgment. From childhood development to family systems, I want to know it all — so I can eventually pour that knowledge back into my community.
Jayden’s journey hasn’t been easy. He’s had to navigate the pain of growing up without a consistent father figure. When my fiancé came into our lives, Jayden was at a critical age — full of questions, emotions, and big feelings he didn’t always have the tools to express. And my fiancé? He had never dated someone with children, let alone become a stepfather to a preteen dealing with mental health challenges. It was an adjustment for both of them. They clashed at times, misunderstood each other, and struggled to build trust. But I watched as they both grew — learning to listen, to meet each other where they were, and to try again the next day. That’s what healing looks like.
My fiancé is a Navy veteran, born and raised in Sudan. Culturally, emotionally, and spiritually — we come from two very different worlds. Our communication styles often clashed, and we had to unlearn so much just to find our rhythm. Add in being new parents to a premature baby, raising a child with ADHD and depression, managing school and work, and navigating life as a multicultural couple in America? The mental load was intense. There were days we loved deeply and days we barely recognized each other. But instead of letting those challenges break us, I encouraged therapy. All of us — myself, Jayden, and my fiancé — now have our own therapists. And together, we also attend couples therapy. That decision changed everything. It taught us how to fight fair, how to listen without defensiveness, and how to love without control.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is the power of early intervention. If more families had access to mental health resources earlier in life — especially in childhood — we could prevent so much unnecessary pain. My son didn’t need to be “fixed.” He needed to be seen, supported, and loved through his struggles. And that’s true for so many children, especially Black boys who are too often labeled before they are listened to. I want to be the kind of therapist who creates safe spaces where people don’t have to explain why they’re hurting — they can just show up and be human.
Being the only woman in a house full of men — my son, my partner, my infant — I carry a lot. I am the nurturer, the peacekeeper, the emotional anchor. I’m the one who schedules the doctor’s appointments, checks in on everyone’s moods, and tries to maintain harmony when the energy feels off. But I’ve also learned that I can’t pour from an empty cup. My mental health matters too. I’ve had to redefine what strength looks like. It’s not about pretending to have it all together — it’s about reaching out for support when you don’t.
That’s why this scholarship speaks to me — especially with the word “MEN” so intentionally highlighted in the word “mental.” The men in my life pushed me into this work. I’ve had to advocate for them, grow with them, and sometimes be the emotional translator between them. I’ve watched a young boy learn to manage big emotions without shame. I’ve watched a man from another continent learn how to parent and love a child who isn’t biologically his. I’ve seen what therapy can do when we allow space for softness — even in the face of pride, trauma, or cultural resistance.
These experiences fuel my passion to become a licensed therapist. I want to help other families — especially Black and immigrant families — navigate the emotional complexity of relationships, parenting, and healing. I want to create a safe space for mothers who feel overwhelmed, for fathers who don’t know how to open up, and for children who are learning that it’s okay to feel.
Receiving this scholarship would mean more than financial assistance. It would be an investment in my purpose — in the communities I plan to serve, the cycles I hope to break, and the legacy I want to leave behind. I want to be part of the change that normalizes therapy in Black households, that encourages men to speak up without shame, and that empowers women to put themselves on their own priority list.
This work is personal. It’s spiritual. It’s necessary. And I’m ready to do the work.