Making the decision to return to graduate school after serving 17 years as a teacher required deep personal reflection. Prior to receiving my ADHD diagnosis, I often felt as though I was on a carousel watching the world around me spin faster than I could ever process. I spent an exorbitant amount of time trying to figure out why it was so challenging to complete daily tasks, and this was especially difficult with respect to studying for coursework in school. I couldn't understand why my fellow students got better grades when I knew I spent significantly more time studying for exams. This contributed to an overall sense of inadequacy and negatively influenced my mental health. With the help of therapy, medication, and spiritual/mindfulness practices, I’ve learned valuable lessons that fostered success in my life.
Getting to this place of clarity wasn’t easy. My upbringing was filled with dysfunction and chaos. My parents didn’t have the capacity to care for their own mental health and couldn’t model these skills for me or my siblings as I grew up. I learned how to survive, but I didn't learn how to thrive. I became such a shell of who I really am once I became an adult, including having formed relationships with others who emulated the maladaptive behaviors my parents modeled for me. I didn't even know what a healthy relationship looked or felt like, and I ended up in a marriage filled with abuse. During that time, I lost touch with friends and family, and I felt utterly alone. I had lost my way, and I needed to return to invoking guidance on a spiritual level in order to escape from my abusive marriage to finally build an authentic life for myself and my son. I started seeing a psychologist, and began to unpack the trauma of my childhood and how this related to the trauma of my marriage. During therapy, ADHD was introduced as a potential diagnosis. I agreed to be tested and received a diagnosis of ADHD as an adult. While the decision to begin medication was not taken lightly, I am grateful I started, because it made the therapeutic strategies to support my executive functioning more accessible.
Through therapy and medication, it became abundantly clear that mindfulness and loving self-care were virtually absent from my life. I now have solid daily rituals that embody the exact strategies I know help keep my mind organized and at ease. I have a daily morning yoga practice that ignites my drive to stay focused each day. Engaging in movement and breathwork serves as a reminder that I am connected to Earth physically and spiritually. I have also found that completing a crossword puzzle while I eat breakfast ensures I start the day with a nutritious meal for my body and a challenge for my brain. I have developed a strong connection between my mental health and the time I spend in nature. Gardening has become a monumental pillar in my mindfulness practice. I find it both soothing and invigorating to tend to my plants and support their growth and beauty. My son and I have even named the garden “Tranquility Palace", and it is a place that we pray together in gratitude for overcoming obstacles and setting intentions to continue to be blessed with an abundance of love. Gardening has also paved the way for healthy cooking and eating. I am committed to consuming fresh whole foods, and I believe my need for creativity is met by virtue of how I use the harvest of my labors to make healthy meals for my family from scratch. I also connect to nature each day as I spend time with my 2 dogs on our walk around the lake. I’m filled with joy and optimism as I observe the wildlife and admire the clouds in the sky, because it reminds me of just how lucky I am to be here on this planet, finally thriving. Finally, I’ve discovered how much music supports my mental health. I now play the violin with my son almost every day. I feel both challenged by my practice and proud of the work I have put into learning to play a new instrument.
While I have thoroughly enjoyed the career I initially chose, I’m very motivated to obtain my Master of Social Work because I’m passionate about supporting others to better identify challenges in life and develop skills for working through those challenges. I firmly believe that having grounded roots in spirituality helps access endless possibilities, and I intend to embody this as become a social worker. Within the field of early intervention, my scope of practice centered around caregiver coaching. I would assist caregivers in developing priorities for their children and establish functional goals together. Through home visits, I would teach caregivers different strategies to support them in reaching the goals they set for their family. I have observed incredible growth in parents' confidence and competence over the years, but there was always one issue that kept me up at night. Caregivers who had experienced trauma, especially as a child, had a much harder time accessing these strategies. I realized that I need to start looking at prevention instead of intervention. This is one of the biggest reasons why I ultimately decided to return to school and make a significant career change at my age. My strongest interest in social work centers around destigmatization of mental health issues, with a focus on trauma informed clinical therapy. I especially want to become skilled at looking at the relationship between trauma and chemical dependency and addiction. Not all trauma survivors become addicts, but trauma itself can pave the way to self-medication. Since I've made such a commitment to prioritizing my own mental health, I want to pay it forward and support those who are in need of mental health counseling. I am ready for this next journey, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for considering me for this scholarship.