“When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous, and surly. They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good and the ugliness of evil, and I have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own… and so none of them can hurt me.”
Marcus Aurelius’s words remind me that the world is filled with both kindness and hardship, and how I choose to respond determines the peace I find in life. What he means here is not to wake up expecting negativity, but to prepare our minds for it—to understand that people act out of confusion, not evil, and that patience and empathy are stronger than anger. His reflection teaches self-control, perspective, and emotional balance, which are lessons I’ve learned again and again through my own life.
When I came to the United States from Afghanistan, I faced countless challenges—new language, new culture, financial struggles, and the weight of being a first-generation college student trying to support a family. I met people who were kind, but also others who underestimated me or looked at me differently. At first, that hurt. I used to take those moments personally and feel discouraged. But with time, and through experiences like working full-time while going to school and raising my baby, I started to understand what Aurelius meant. Many people react from their own pain, stress, or misunderstanding, and if we see that clearly, we can stay calm and kind instead of bitter.
To me, this paragraph is really about choosing peace over reaction. It’s about not letting the world steal your inner stability. I’ve learned that when life feels heavy—when bills are due, assignments pile up, and I barely sleep—responding with patience and gratitude gives me power. That power doesn’t come from controlling others; it comes from controlling myself.
Aurelius says we are all connected by nature, meaning even those who hurt us share the same human struggles inside. I think about this when I help other immigrants in my community learn English or computer basics. Some come with frustration, fear, or even anger from what they’ve gone through. But once they feel seen and supported, they open up. They remind me that we all just want to be understood, and that kindness can change someone’s whole day.
On a deeper level, this passage connects with my goal of working in Information Technology. In IT, like in life, problems happen constantly—systems crash, people make mistakes, communication breaks down. It’s easy to get frustrated, but if I bring patience and calm into my work, I can solve problems more efficiently and make people’s experiences better. Technology connects people across the world, and I want to be someone who uses it with empathy—helping others find confidence and stability just as I did.
Aurelius’s wisdom also reminds me to focus on what I can control: my effort, my attitude, my learning, and how I treat others. That mindset has carried me through late nights studying after long work shifts, and through moments when life felt unfair. Each time I’ve chosen patience over anger or kindness over pride, I’ve seen how it leads to better outcomes—peace within myself and stronger relationships with others.
His message about “none of them can hurt me” doesn’t mean becoming cold or emotionless; it means recognizing that inner peace is something only you can protect. That idea has changed how I live. I don’t expect perfection from the world anymore—I just try to bring goodness into it, in small ways, every day.
If I receive this scholarship, it would help me continue my education without the constant pressure of financial stress. It would also be a reminder that perseverance, humility, and faith in goodness do matter—that people see and value those qualities. But even more than the financial support, it would mean encouragement to keep walking this path of growth and service, just as Marcus Aurelius wrote about: calmly facing each day, working with integrity, and finding strength in kindness.
In a world that can be noisy and harsh, his ancient words feel personal and modern. They remind me that wisdom, patience, and compassion are timeless tools. I may come from a different country and culture than Marcus Aurelius, but his words describe exactly what I believe—that we can’t control others, but we can always control how we treat them. And in that choice, we find real freedom.