On December 31st, 2019, I popped the party poppers, kissed my loved ones, and cheered as I looked into 2020. I was optimistic about the change I would experience but unaware of what was truly to come. 2020 was my year. I had plans to grow into a better person and develop great habits that I could take with me into college. Just goes to show that you can never judge a book by its cover.
2020 was supposed to be everyone’s year. Goals were set high and in the first few weeks we thought this was the year. But then life took a turn for the worst and month after month after month damage threatened to destroy the plans we had carefully constructed in our New Year's Resolutions. With the death of Kobe, the wildfires in Colorado and California, COVID, there seemed to be no way out. At least that’s how I felt when I learned school would be remote until further notice. I felt stuck for the first time in my life. I had nowhere to be, nowhere I could be, no one to hang out with, nothing. I had never not been busy and it made me realize how jam packed I always had my schedule. It also made me question if that lifestyle was as beneficial as I had thought it was.
I took the summer months carefully. I worked when I could and worked out as much as I could will myself to. But something still felt off with me. I had a lack of motivation. There wasn’t anything boosting me to keep pushing towards the unknown future. In about mid-July, I realized I needed to make something more of my summer. Despite the lack of the activities that I would normally do, I found joy in trying new things. I took up pickle-ball with my grandparents and spent more time with them than I ever had been able to in the past. My siblings and I would head to the park down the street to pass a volleyball and enjoy the time we never got to spend together when our schedules were busy. I built relationships and learned how to properly foster them. All I could think now was; Wow, people are great.
A lack of social interaction really puts into perspective how dependent we are on it. Humans function best when communicating with other humans. It’s simple and it’s what my life lacked before everything shut down. I’m a very social person, and I had lots of friends, but I didn’t have lots of solid connections. I didn’t really know everything about each of my friends until that was all we could do. Get to know each other through facetime and phone calls.
Self-reflection is a crazy thing. When I sat to think about what I want in my future, should everything return to normal, only one thing came to mind; The ability to look back on this time in my life and thank myself for living in the moment and appreciating everyone around me. I wanted to be able to remember this historical moment as the time in my life where I turned myself around and grew into a better person. When surrounded with negativity I learned to channel my sadness into positivity surrounding new opportunities. I made opportunities for myself and learned to love being my own motivator. 2020 has been a challenge, but a learning curve nonetheless.
I don’t think I will ever forget the toilet paper shortage. Or the item purchase limits in grocery stores. The masks. The fear we felt walking next to a stranger and the awkward encounters of avoiding the person next to you. Not the 2020 I expected but the world became a nicer place and I think we all learned how to sympathize with one another. Relationships have always been important to me but if 2020 taught me one thing, it’s that I need to really take the time to get to know my friends and family because they are the ones that will stick with me through it all.
On December 31st, 2020, I was just as excited as I was the year before. I popped the poppers, kissed my loved ones, and headed into 2021 with a smile, a mask, and a new outlook on life.