Looking back at my teenage years, I struggled a lot mentally, but somehow, I survived. My survival was not based on my mental strength or luck but it was based on an amazing support system from my family, most especially my mum. I was depressed with not being adequate, which came from peer pressure. I was always concerned about what people would say to me; if I would be laughed at or discriminated against anytime I wanted to join a group. With time, life experiences and family issues came into the picture and affected my mental health with other factors. Certain results like pulling away from people and unusual activities, like not being able to sleep properly and having low or no energy started to creep into my life. This affected my life adversely.
My mum always stood by my side and supported me even when I acted harshly or violently. She showered me with love. After some years, I couldn’t understand why she would love me so much despite my inadequacies. I made a conscious effort to be vulnerable to her with my insecurities and struggles. This has allowed me to lay down all my fears, worries, concerns, and depressions to her. I felt light because I had someone to talk to about my insecurities knowing fully well, that I won’t be laughed at. This made me focus on my personal development in achieving my long-term career goals, working productively, realizing my full potential, coping with the stresses of life, and making meaningful contributions to my communities. This was my journey on mental illness and wellness.
However, my experience ever since then has changed drastically. My beliefs are now centered on love, compassion, and truth. We all need these three things in our lives to help us grow and overcome our fear. Our neighbors and strangers need love, compassion, and truth to help with their hidden struggles. In my career aspirations, I have decided to pursue what I love and not money all the time; which is to create a conducive and safe environment for future generations. This will keep me going daily when I wake up in the morning feeling so stressed or tired. To avoid being depressed or struggling in my career with mental health following my goals and not the money will help me in putting the right energy and investing my skills, which will be a win for me because I want to learn and keep learning, waking up every morning to a new challenge and the thought of putting smiles on the faces of people. In addition, a healthy relationship is a relationship of support in the darkest of all moments, true love with no particular reason. There is a popular adage that says, “two heads are better than one”. This doesn’t just talk about excellence, but also growth, support, love, and finding that shoulder to rest on. We all need relationships that can boost our energy when they are low.
Furthermore, my previous experience with mental health and how I overcame it made me volunteer in various communities and schools. One of my recent volunteering activities is being a member of the advisory board on diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging at the University of New Haven. I did this to help students struggling with all kinds of issues that are impacting or could impact their mental health, and share my experiences to provide support and hope. With the rest of the team, we have been able to create a conducive environment where students can be vulnerable about their struggles and nightmares in a confidential manner.
In conclusion, in life, we just need at least one genuine support who will go through thick and thin for us. But in all, we need to be vulnerable to them and let them know what we are passing through and the struggles we are deeply facing. Drugs are temporary reliefs and not the genuine solution. Society has truly failed us because of greed, power, and gains. But even in a failed community, we can create love, support, and compassion to help one another in tough times.