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When we look at those around us, we can rarely see the battle scars that crisscross the hearts of others. My profile picture won’t tell you that the central figure in my household is a father who struggles with substance abuse and drug addiction. This application won't be the prettiest, happy-go-lucky type of testimony that makes you want to jump up and down for joy. In fact, with everything considered, there's only a fraction of my story that I can actually tell, in light of the fact that I am displaying my words on a public website frequented by highschoolers and young adults.
I won't elaborate on the explosive fights, holding my mother as she cries in my arms, stepping up to provide for my two brothers, the times I didn't want to go home, the times I didn't want to get up, having your father choose a hit over spending time with you, and the mask that I wear daily to hide it all. I'll let your mind fill in the blanks of just how that might feel as a sixteen year old girl, who is supposed to be obsessing about what dress she's going to wear at the dance, and what boy could ask her. Everything I've been through in my short few years of living has made me strong. That tough-as-nails type of strength that only happens when your heart gets so broken that minor inconveniences can no longer do any damage; the type of strength that means you can get up and go to school everyday while still wearing the biggest smile in the room, even after three straight sleepless nights. With everything going on, I had prepared myself for the day when it might happen- the day he might decide to get up and leave- but when it actually occurred, I absorbed the full force of the situation head on.
As I write this, the biggest adversity I have ever faced happened just four days ago. On March 28th 2021, my father walked out of the door to chase a life that didn't include me. Quite honestly, there isn't a feeling you can accurately describe in that moment or in the days that follow. When the dad of your childhood, the one that used to buy you ice cream and hold your hand as you crossed the street, changes into someone that you no longer recognize, there's an emptiness, a stillness, and a void. When the father that is supposed to walk you down the aisle one day tells you that he's not coming home, there is a numbness that fills you from head to toe. The past few days, I have walked around the halls completely lost, but I keep reminding myself to put one foot in front of the other. I can, I will and I must. While it may take everything that I have, I continue to push through my classes, assignments and after school activities, and will not stop until my goals are achieved.
I can't tell you exactly how an event like that will affect my future. It will likely take a lifetime of perseverance to overcome, and I don't know what the next few months and years will look like for my family and I. The biggest takeaway that I carry from growing up as I have, is that my life must be different. My life must constitute greater ambitions: ones that will allow me to escape the generational cycle of drug abuse, divorce, and alcoholism over my family. That is why I am going to become the first person in my familial history to graduate with a bachelor's degree, potentially even my master’s. While many will make excuses for me, I will give myself no opportunity to surrender the multitude of ambitions that I hold dear. I'm taking back my future from those who will tell me that I am incapable, and I will build my legacy from the ground up.
Mark my words, I am not the girl who they say I will become.