The bass in the music made the floors shake. The lights bounced off the walls and the faces of everyone around me. A girl I barely knew grabbed my hand and led me away from the crowd. We were laughing and then everything went dark. I woke up the next morning in pain, crying, and scared. I knew I was home, but I didn't remember how I got home. Slowly, I managed to climb out of bed and find my roommate. Sobbing, "Why did we drink so much again? I didn't want to drink so much again. Who got us home?" At that moment, I realized that I didn't have to do everything she did to fit in, just because she was older and cooler than me.
In 2017, I dropped out of college to pursue my career in health care. My drinking and partying got in the way of my schooling. I figured I didn't have the time to work, go to school, and party. My depression was eating me alive from the inside out and it was the only way to numb the pain. After my blackout night, I decided to continue working within my Cosmetology Degree and devote my life to it. I had a dream to open my own salon and become my own boss. My heart was in it, but something was missing as my passion was for health care. Grey's Anatomy was my new substance.
In 2022, at the age of 25, I opened my salon during my second trimester of pregnancy. I painted the walls, built the stations, hung the mirrors, and installed the shampoo bowls. I created a rental salon and gathered a team of amazing women from all different backgrounds and ages. I did it. I made my dream a reality. I became a salon owner, and a mother. I managed my sobriety well, but my depression was still at an all-time high. I sought help from doctors to manage my mental health and help me find the right path. It is an everyday battle, but one that I will not give up fighting. It takes courage to speak to therapists and talk about childhood trauma and learn skills to resolve it. I also like to call it "medication roulette". You are on and off different antidepressants until you find the one that works for you. There is one out there, in a specific dosage, you just won't know until you try it, or a few.
Over the next 3 years, my daughter taught me how to see the world through a whole new perspective. She taught me how to slow down and take in the trees, each blade of grass, and rain drops splattering on the window. For her, I wanted to show her anything was possible. No matter how hard life's struggles may seem, you can keep going. June of 2025, I am returning to school to study Diagnostic Medical Sonography. My expected graduation date is January 2027. My goal is to be a Registered Cardiac Sonographer and work in a hospital for patients that are undergoing life-threatening experiences.
My drive to learn in the medical field never left. My salon is still operating. You can have more than one dream and goal. Your life doesn't end when you reach them, and it doesn't end at the bottom of a bottle. My daughter can look at her mother and see a woman who will continue to strive for her goals, and learn that she too can accomplish anything she wants. When she is older, we can lie in the grass, stare at the clouds and talk about our dreams together. The wind will be loud, the leaves will shake, and the sunlight will bounce off our faces.