Mental health is something I didn’t fully understand until I had to face it myself. For a long time, I thought struggling mentally just meant feeling sad or tired. I didn’t know how deep it could go or how much it could affect every part of a person’s life, how they think, act, connect with others, and even how they see their future. My own journey with mental health started after I lost my father in 2014, but it has continued to shape the way I view the world, the people around me, and the goals I’ve made for my life.
After my dad passed away, I was heartbroken. But as time went on, it became clear that I wasn’t just grieving, I was struggling with anxiety, depression, and emotional disconnection. I didn’t know how to talk about it. I didn’t have the words. Some days I felt numb. Other days, I felt everything all at once. What made it harder was that I didn’t know where to get help, or even that I could get help. Like many people, I thought I had to deal with everything on my own and just be "strong."
As I began to learn more about mental health, I started to understand what was really happening inside me. I realized that grief had opened the door to deeper mental health issues that I had no tools to manage. And I wasn’t alone, statistics show that nearly **1 in 5 adults in the U.S. live with a mental illness**, and that **around 20% of people grieving a major loss develop clinical depression or anxiety within a year**. These numbers helped me feel less alone, and they also showed me how many people are suffering in silence.
My experience with mental health has taught me that emotions don’t just go away. If you don’t deal with them, they build up. And when people don’t have access to support or information, they can end up making choices that hurt themselves or others, not because they’re bad people, but because they’re overwhelmed, lost, or untreated. That realization changed the way I see others. It made me more compassionate. I no longer see people’s behavior on the surface; I try to understand what’s going on underneath.
This shift has affected my relationships in powerful ways. I’ve learned how to listen more deeply and without judgment. I understand how important it is to create space for people to be honest about what they’re feeling, even if it’s messy or uncomfortable. I’ve become someone friends and family turn to when they’re hurting, and I take that responsibility seriously. I believe everyone deserves someone who listens, who validates their emotions, and who reminds them that they’re not alone.
Most importantly, my experience with mental health has shaped my career goals. I want to become a grief and mental health counselor so I can help people who are going through emotional pain, confusion, or trauma, just like I did. I want to work with individuals who feel lost and help them find healthy ways to cope. That might mean teaching them coping skills, helping them access resources, or just being someone who listens and understands. I want people to know that they don’t have to suffer in silence, and that healing is possible, even if it takes time.
My personal mental health journey has also taught me resilience. There have been many times where I’ve felt discouraged or overwhelmed, whether by school, work, or life in general. But I’ve learned how to pause, take care of my mental health, and keep going. I now know that asking for help is not weakness, it’s strength. I’ve developed better coping strategies, built stronger support systems, and found ways to keep my father’s memory close while still moving forward with my life. His love still guides me, but it’s my own growth and mental wellness that allows me to keep building a future.
I also want to help break the stigma around mental health, especially in communities where talking about emotions is still seen as a sign of weakness. Too many people feel ashamed of their mental health struggles. I want to use my voice and my future career to remind others that they are not alone, and that there is no shame in needing support. I believe we all deserve the tools and resources to care for our mental well-being, just like we do our physical health.
In the end, my experiences have given me a strong sense of purpose. I want to help others heal, just as I’ve been learning to heal myself. I want to be a light for people in their darkest moments and show them that with support, patience, and love, they can find their way again. Mental health is not just something I’ve studied—it’s something I’ve lived through. And that lived experience is what drives me to make a difference in the lives of others.