If I could create one mandatory class for all K–12 students, it would be a comprehensive Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) course focused on building emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and relationship skills. While academic success is essential, the most significant predictor of a student’s ability to thrive, both inside and outside the classroom, is not just their grades and test scores, but their ability to regulate emotions, manage conflict, show empathy, and develop a strong sense of self. Since the COVID-19 pandemic, we have seen a decline in students' interpersonal skills.
Too often, schools prioritize test scores and academic benchmarks over student well-being. We ask students to perform at high levels while ignoring the emotional burdens they carry, many of which stem from systemic inequities, trauma, and adverse childhood experiences. I have witnessed how early intervention in emotional learning, combined with culturally responsive pedagogy, can make a lasting impact. SEL is not a “soft skill”; it’s a life skill. A structured SEL curriculum would provide students with a toolkit they can use far beyond the classroom: how to express their needs, advocate for themselves, navigate relationships, and build resilience.
This class would be more than morning check-ins, behavior charts, and student advisories. It would be intentional and scaffolded across grade levels. In lower elementary, students would learn to name their feelings, use breathing techniques, and practice kindness. By middle school, they’d explore identity, healthy communication, and social dynamics. In high school, they will dive into emotional literacy, self-reflection, mental health, and leadership rooted in empathy. Throughout the course, we would affirm diverse cultural expressions of emotion and challenge the ways schools have historically punished students, especially Black and Brown students, for how they express pain or frustration.
As a Black woman educator and doctoral student in Educational Leadership, my mission is to create healing-centered, culturally responsive spaces for all learners. Making SEL a mandatory course would not only support individual student growth but also transform school culture. Classrooms would become safer, more inclusive, and more connected. Discipline rates would drop. Academic engagement would rise. Students would graduate not only with the ability to pass a test, but with the tools to thrive in relationships, in college, in careers, and the community.
We cannot afford to treat social-emotional learning as an add-on or an afterthought. It must be foundational. SEL would provide every student, regardless of their background, with the opportunity to be seen, heard, and empowered. That’s the class I would create, and that’s the kind of education I believe in.