Rough, hard, and jagged are words that are commonly used to describe a rock. However, in my story, a rock represents a foundational and pivotal life lesson. Often times, rocks buried deep beneath the earth's surface serve as obstacles to trees attempting to establish their roots. With a bit of effort, the roots change course and the very rocks that once served as obstacles now stabilize the tree as it grows, functioning as a crucial part of the tree's foundation.
When I was younger, I wanted to be seen as outgoing, funny, and authentic. I danced and sang and made a fool of myself. All in attempts to make those around me smile. These antics peaked on the basketball court. Much like an opportunistic young tree’s roots search for water and nutrients, I sought laughter and smiles.
As I grew older and continued making unforgettable memories, my love for the sport only grew. My freshman year of high school, I made the varsity team. I was thrilled. My hard work had paid off.
Transitioning from Rec league basketball to high school basketball was a major challenge I had underestimated. I had always struggled with anxiety, but my thoughts had never been this consuming. I spent countless hours obsessing over how I was perceived by others. The seedling that once spent its time growing and evolving was now a sapling encountering its first obstacle, a rock. My love for basketball was lost in an endless cycle of negative thoughts. My body paralyzed by anxiety. All seven fans in the bleachers now became the priority. Were they going to talk about me at school tomorrow? I was convinced my teammates and coaches resented me due to my constant pattern of underperforming. My sophomore season, however, I was named captain by my coaches. Everyone turned to me expecting me to crack a smile, but instead I stared blankly as my mind raced. It all felt impossible. How was I supposed to lead the team when I was fighting my own battles?
My high school basketball coach had started a team tradition. On the first Saturday practice of the season, my coach would hand out a rock to the most deserving player. He would start his speech with the simple phrase “You rock because...”. He would share his thoughts on why that player had earned the rock that week. The previous week’s recipient would choose the next teammate. Although I had been awarded the rock several times, one in particular was pivotal. One Saturday, my coach called us into the huddle to give my teammate the chance to present the rock to the next hard-working player. I thought for certain it would be awarded to my teammate who had clearly outperformed me for the past month. Instead, she turned and looked at me. She tossed the rock into my hands and started her speech “Maya, you rock because no matter what the circumstances are, you always lift everyone else up around you”. This moment for many may have been labeled as unremarkable, but for me it was beyond powerful. It reminded me that the people around me didn't notice the shots I had missed; they noticed the encouragement I had provided them when they most needed it.
Being awarded the team rock became a reflection of my foundational strength. It illuminates one of my gifts. I am now a stronger tree; with my branches reaching further. Neighboring trees have begun to lean in, seeking my strength to help them grow.