I think back to my childhood, before ALS took so many positives away from my life; I remember my dad’s laugh, his hugs, and his wisdom. My dad, Scott Cart, was diagnosed with ALS in 2005. With me being only one year old, my family was devastated at the idea that my sister and I might grow up without a dad. My dad was given 3-5 year expectancy, however he fought on for over 16.5 years, which is rare for this disease. On January 11, 2022, my dad passed away in our home. My dad had an inspiring mindset and outlook on his situation during his fight with the disease. Most people could not do that in his circumstance, so this was reflective of his true character. By the end of his life, he was paralyzed and in the care of Ascend Hospice. His hospice nurse, Racheal Haas, who we now consider family, shared that my dad was the most resilient patient she had ever had. That shows you who Scott Cart was.
Growing up, my family created Struttin’ for Scott, a donation team for the ALS Walk in Kansas City. We would collect donations for the ALS Association to help support medical research. Some of my favorite childhood memories took place at the annual ALS Walks. I was lucky enough to have my dad for as long as I did. There were many things he passed down to me like our love for 1980s rock, our blue eyes, our work ethic, our longing for travel, and our appetite for Kansas City barbecue. My mom, Sheila Cart, was a rock for my whole family through it all. She was his primary caregiver, so she gave up a lot to be there for my dad. I admire both of my parents so much and I want to make them proud.
My dad passed during my senior year of high school and I decided to go off to college in the fall. I chose Kansas State University to pursue a Master’s degree in Interior Architecture. I have completed four out of five years. Once I graduate, I can design spaces for people of all abilities, which is something special about my career field. My family had to redesign certain parts of our home to accommodate my dad’s physical abilities, like ramps and stairlifts. Because my family lived through it, I became more aware that most buildings are designed for able-bodied people. In my interior architecture projects, I will always design in focus of the Americans with Disabilities Act. Financially, five years of college is very expensive. Since my mom is the sole provider now, she makes less than necessary per year to keep up. My family is having to dip into savings to pay for schooling. I have one year of schooling left, and it would ease stress on my mom and I if I was lucky enough to earn the Sandra West scholarship.
Even though I do not wish what I went through on anyone, I have learned a lot about myself and others through my situation. I have had to mature more than most people my age. The most important lesson I have learned is to tell your parents you love them because there are so many unknowns in life. I will forever be grateful that I had my childhood and teenage years with my dad. It is harder now that he is gone, but I am living through him and making him proud. Scott Cart is one to remember.