“The past is where you learned the lesson, the future is where you apply it" - Anonymous. I have encountered many obstacles in my life, but the most challenging obstacle that I have to deal with every day is a condition called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Before all else, the root of my PTSD started when I was 13. My mom had a boyfriend; I called him my stepfather. Everything was great with him until he became violent toward my siblings and me. He has never hit me before because I was afraid of him, and I tried my best to stay out of his way. My life had evolved around protecting my siblings, and to think I failed them made my heart break.
Months passed, and we moved into a new apartment. One night, I woke up to screaming and fighting between mom and my stepfather. I walked into my sisters’ room to check on them and saw both of them crying. My mom and stepdad soon burst into our room fussing and he began to hit on our mother, all while standing right in front of us. I grew up around violence, so fighting was not new to me. No one ever wants to see their mother, the woman that birthed them, get mistreated right in front of their faces knowing they can not do anything about it.
After that situation, we lived from hotel to hotel from my 8th-grade year until my 10th-grade year. During those times, I had to take my high school courses online, due to the pandemic and none of my teachers knew what I had going on in my life. With the constant buying of hotel rooms, our money started to fall short, so we had to manage food wisely. After getting used to my living situation, I soon began having nightmares about him. I would wake up from my sleep with a face full of tears, dreaming that he was harming me or my family.
I soon applied for a job to help my mother relieve some of the pressure off of her shoulders. I promised my family that one day we would be in a better position and that I would be the one to make a name for this family; if not, then it would have to be them.
During my senior year, I decided to join a lot of school clubs in Highschool to allow my voice and the voices of my peers to be heard. I am a great leader, listener, and communicator, and I love being involved in the community. I am in the National Honors Society and the Student Government Association serving as SGA Treasurer, and I am in the Marching Band holding the title of Miss Band and Percussion Section leader. I am also a mentor in a Senior-freshman mentoring program at my school so that I, as a senior, can give the freshmen advice on high school life. I soon started a mentoring program of my own for young girls ages 5-18 called Sisterhood by J&D. I started the program to help with their feminine wellness, provide them with free feminine products, and teach young ladies how to cope with their emotions while letting them know that they always have someone to talk to when they feel like no one is listening.