I was born in Hong Kong and brought to America by my family in pursuit of the American Dream. Like many immigrant families, our story was one of hard work and quiet sacrifice. My parents worked long hours and spoke little English. From a young age, I became someone my family leaned on, from translating medical appointments to reading important documents to even just helping my parents live their everyday lives. They couldn't do anything without me.
The pressure to succeed in school while caring for my younger brother was constant. In our traditional Chinese household, support didn’t come in the form of hugs or praise. The closest I received to encouragement was, “That wasn’t bad, but I’m sure you can do better.” Despite the pressure and lack of emotional support, I was happy. I had dreams, and I had my brother, whom I could shield from all the responsibility, and that gave me purpose. I believed if I worked hard enough, things would fall into place.
Two weeks into my sophomore year of high school, just a week after I turned 15, my father died suddenly from cardiac arrest. Before that night, I wanted to be a doctor. I had chosen my high school for its medical programs and often imagined myself saving lives like the doctors I saw on TV.
That dream ended as I hovered over my father’s body, frozen, while the 911 operator gave me CPR instructions. My mom panicked beside me, unable to help, not only due to the language barrier, but because she just completely shut down, all while my eight year old brother cried in the background. I was the only one who could act. After a few surreal moments, I started chest compressions. It felt like an eternity before the ambulance arrived, but unfortunately, despite all my efforts, my father died on the way to the hospital.
After his passing, I became the head of the household. My mother began disappearing for days at a time and refused to get a job. I juggled school, raised my brother, and managed the paperwork from my father’s death. I even tried to run his business, hoping to maintain an income, but eventually had to sell it when I realized I was in over my head.
At 16, I got a job to support my family and eventually saved enough to pay for college with the help of scholarships. But with my mother still unwilling to work and my brother depending on me, after a year of college, I had no choice but to put school on hold and continue supporting them.
Now, after years of responsibility and sacrifice, I’m finally in a place where I can return to school. I never lost sight of that goal. I’ve chosen to study Business Management because I’ve discovered that I thrive when helping others grow. I enjoy mentoring, guiding, and watching people succeed, and I know how to lead through adversity.
I’ve learned more through experience than I ever could in a classroom alone. I’ve learned how to survive, how to problem solve, and how to keep going when it feels impossible. Most importantly, I’ve learned that while I may not have taken the traditional path, every obstacle I’ve faced has shaped me into someone stronger, more determined, and more empathetic.
I’m ready to start the next chapter of my journey. I’m proud of how far I’ve come, and I’m even more excited for what’s ahead.