“America is too great for small dreams” As humans, we are ever-evolving and ever-changing. My life has four points, you might say a square or even a box. As a person, raised in a single-parent household, the oldest male, and a person in recovery; I am reminded of how different I am daily. My four-point outline is the basis and foundation of why I want to write my own story. I am searching for my identity and figuring out how I want to show up in this world. My path has been rather unique, to say the least, filled with twists, turns, and tenacity. This is a story all about how my life changed on my journey to become something profound. Through my journey I have learned that leadership is all-encompassing, you must lead with intention and with empathy.
At age fourteen, my dad took his own life. My Dad was half of my identity and I needed him at a point in my life, but he was gone. Imagine there were no goodbyes, no final words, and you're left to be the man of the house. I have experienced firsthand, the power of personal responsibility. My family has a long history of struggles with mental health. When I was 10 my uncle took his own life after a battle with addiction and depression. When I was fourteen my dad took his own life after a long struggle with mental health and depression. After he died, I fell into a deep depression myself and coped with drugs. I was in a dark place for a long time, and eventually, I was sent to rehab. Losing a parent that way is a pain that cannot be quantified. I turned to drugs to cope with the pain I was feeling and the lack of emotions I didn’t know how to express. , My mother has played an instrumental role in learning to do the right thing.
I have learned a lot about having a shared commitment, during my stay in rehab I learned to cope with my depression, which in turn helped me cope and understand why I did drugs. I am the only one responsible for my mental health and I currently put all my focus on personal growth, and my ability to succeed. I have continued to remain sober, and am focused on the main part of my life to success. At rehab, I desired to go home, but nobody believed me. My own family thought I would relapse and fall into old habits. I had to show them the personal growth I had fought so hard for. When I came home, both family and friends were highly skeptical and worried about me. I learned to be motivated by my community; we are a community of outsiders. At the beginning of high school, I was struggling to find my place and I happened to find a diverse group of people who had varying perspectives and outlooks. We walk to the beat of our own drum. I have innate aspirations to expand my knowledge and intelligence, and to surpass my own limitations. I view challenges not as obstacles, but as new opportunities to refine myself and expand my horizons. I surround myself with others who help push me to learn, evolve, and grow my skills and knowledge. I hope to challenge myself and inspire everyone around me to become their best selves. Leaving a meaningful legacy starts with my loved ones, and ends with everyone I hope to change by making a difference in society.
I am excelling in school, and work over thirty hours a week as a shift lead at Tropical Smoothie. I have become a huge advocate for mental health, as I help many of my friends navigate how they cope with their struggles with mental health. I believe that my struggles have helped me to understand what it means to be an effective leader. I am a supervisor now, I speak to everyone with respect and answer questions to give clarity, but the most important skill is to listen. I have measured my growth by setting goals and metrics. My main academic interest is chemistry and engineering. I have always wanted to be an engineer. I found my love for chemistry and finished with the highest grade in the class. I decided to combine my favorite subjects and passions into a field that includes real-world challenges. My current aspirations to become a chemical engineer start with my fascination with transforming raw materials into products that benefit society. I am drawn to making advancements in society and minimizing environmental impacts. Becoming a chemical engineer would give me a broad range of ways to help the world.
The Novelist Chimamanda Adichie talked about stereotyping, putting people in a box, and bounding people to one singular outcome. As we know every story is different, I have hit rock bottom and I still came back from it. As a leader, in my school with the golf team or working with the breast cancer club I am always looking for positive solutions. I have climbed my way up and I am trying to build a life for myself out of determination, grit, and resiliency. I proved I could do the right thing and succeed. In the nine months since coming home, I have been working full-time, and I am in the top 10% of my class with a 4.4 GPA. My goal is to become an active participant in the college community, and I plan to be involved in student government and create programs to help with men's mental health. My story is just beginning!