I think sometimes I live in a TV show—like every moment of my life has been recorded. That’s how I end up in some of the predicaments I face.
When I was younger, my dad had to take me away from my birth mother due to her drug addiction. It hurts to think about sometimes—that she chose addiction over me. She stopped when she was pregnant but couldn’t stay clean as I got older. However, my dad has to be one of the best dads out there. He did everything he could as a single father, working ridiculous hours and even bringing me to the lab as a baby because he had no one to watch me. Eventually, we stayed with my grandparents for a while, though I don’t remember much from that time. I do remember every Mother’s Day, feeling angry—not at my dad, but at the mother who chose addiction over me. Despite everything, my dad never spoke badly about her.
When I was five, my dad met my stepmom. She was one of the most beautiful women I had ever met, and when they moved in together, we became a family. She later had my two younger siblings, who I love with my whole heart. But after they were born, she started treating me differently. My dad worked a lot to provide for us, so he wasn’t around to see what was happening. Over time, she constantly put me down verbally. Things escalated when my dad got a new job during COVID, requiring us to move to California. While we stayed with my grandparents, they finally stepped in, recognizing how unhealthy our mother-daughter relationship had become. When my dad started working from home, he saw it too. One day, they had a major argument in front of family friends, which I believe ultimately led to their divorce.
Even now, she still lives with us. My dad told me he wants to keep the peace for my last couple of years in high school and for my siblings. But even if they’re my half-siblings, that doesn’t matter—I love them more than anything.
Not having a stable mother figure, or even one who would ask to adopt me, shaped my perception of family. But I don’t think this was the biggest challenge of my life. This past May, I lost my best friend, Andrie, to suicide. She was one of my biggest supporters through everything with my stepmom. During COVID, we, along with our other close friend Mbayie, would FaceTime daily. Even though we lived in different states, they were my core—my people. We laughed, cried, and leaned on each other.
The night I found out was the hardest I’ve ever cried. Flying to Michigan for her funeral felt surreal—speaking at her viewing, seeing all her classmates, and, most of all, facing her parents. That moment broke Mbayie and me. Andrie had so much potential and a bright future. Why did she think this was the only way out?
Despite these hardships, I never let them define me. Instead, they fueled my determination to succeed—academically, athletically, and personally. Losing Andrie showed me the importance of resilience, but also of being there for others, which has shaped my desire to pursue a career in healthcare. Overcoming the challenges of my childhood has only made me stronger. Life is full of adversity, but I refuse to let it close any doors for me. Instead, I’ve learned to push through, work harder, and turn obstacles into opportunities.