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Kourtney DeBoer

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Bio

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist currently pursuing a Doctorate of Marriage and Family Therapy, which has been my lifelong dream.

Education

Northcentral University

Doctoral degree program (PhD, MD, JD, etc.)
2024 - 2029
  • Majors:
    • Mental and Social Health Services and Allied Professions

King's College

Master's degree program
2019 - 2022
  • Majors:
    • Neurobiology and Neurosciences
    • Mental and Social Health Services and Allied Professions

University of San Diego

Master's degree program
2009 - 2011
  • Majors:
    • Clinical, Counseling and Applied Psychology

University of La Verne

Bachelor's degree program
2005 - 2009
  • Majors:
    • Psychology, General

Miscellaneous

  • Desired degree level:

    Doctoral degree program (PhD, MD, JD, etc.)

  • Graduate schools of interest:

  • Transfer schools of interest:

  • Majors of interest:

  • Not planning to go to medical school
  • Career

    • Dream career field:

      Government Administration

    • Dream career goals:

    • Social Science Program Specialist

      Navy Sexual Assault Prevention & Response
      2020 – Present5 years

    Research

    • Clinical, Counseling and Applied Psychology

      University of San Diego — Coder
      2009 – 2011

    Public services

    • Advocacy

      Navy Sexual Assault Prevention & Response — Sexual Assault Response Coordinator
      2018 – Present

    Future Interests

    Advocacy

    Politics

    Volunteering

    Philanthropy

    Entrepreneurship

    A Man Helping Women Helping Women Scholarship
    I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with a deep commitment to making a lasting impact in the world through trauma-informed mental health care. My path to this profession was shaped by my own lived experiences, including childhood sexual abuse and lifelong struggles with depression and anxiety. These challenges instilled in me a profound understanding of the importance of compassionate, accessible mental health support. Rather than allowing my past to define me, I chose to transform my pain into purpose, dedicating my career to helping others reclaim their lives and heal. My ambition is to create systemic change in how trauma and mental health are addressed, particularly for survivors of sexual violence and underserved communities. I currently operate Cultivating Capacity, my private practice that offers trauma-informed psychotherapy for victims, survivors, helpers, and healers of sexual assault, rape, incest, and childhood sexual abuse. My work is more than a profession—it is a mission to ensure that no one feels alone or unheard in their healing process. However, my impact extends beyond individual therapy. As a Social Science Program Specialist for the Navy’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Response (SAPR) program, I work within complex institutional systems to advocate for survivors, ensuring they receive the care and resources they need. This role has strengthened my drive to push for systemic improvements in how military and civilian institutions handle trauma, mental health, and survivor support. My ambition has led me to pursue a Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy (DMFT) to expand my reach beyond one-on-one clinical work. With advanced training, I plan to develop trauma-informed programs that bridge gaps in mental health care, ensuring that survivors have access to comprehensive, culturally competent services. Additionally, I aim to influence policies that reduce barriers to care, advocate for prevention and early intervention programs, and train future clinicians to provide compassionate, evidence-based support. What drives me is the knowledge that meaningful change requires both individual and systemic efforts. I have seen firsthand how the right support can empower someone to move from a place of suffering to one of strength. My goal is to extend that transformation beyond the therapy room—into communities, institutions, and policies that shape people’s access to care. Ultimately, I plan to leave a legacy of healing, resilience, and advocacy. Through my clinical work, research, and advocacy efforts, I will continue pushing for a world where trauma survivors are supported, mental health care is accessible to all, and no one is left to suffer in silence. My journey is a testament to the power of resilience, and I intend to use that strength to make a lasting, positive impact on the world.
    Elevate Mental Health Awareness Scholarship
    Transforming Struggle into Purpose: How My Mental Health Journey Shaped My Life Mental health has been a defining force in my life, shaping my aspirations, relationships, and professional path. Throughout my life, I have struggled with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts—battles that, at times, felt overwhelming. These experiences not only tested my resilience but also fundamentally shaped my beliefs about healing, connection, and advocacy. Because of these struggles, I chose to become a clinician, ensuring that others facing similar pain have access to the support and compassion I once desperately needed. My journey has fueled my life aspirations, deepened my understanding of mental health, and reinforced my commitment to breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness. Aspirations Rooted in Personal Experience My experiences with mental health challenges have profoundly influenced my aspirations. I know firsthand what it feels like to struggle in silence, to battle intrusive thoughts that convince you that you are alone. Growing up, I lacked the language to describe my pain and the tools to manage it. There were times when I did not believe I would make it to my 18th or 21st birthday. Yet, as I gradually found support through therapy and mental health awareness, I realized that healing is possible—not easy, but possible. That realization changed everything. It was this understanding that led me to become a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). I wanted to provide the same space of safety and validation for others that I eventually found in my own healing process. I now work with survivors of trauma, helping them reclaim their lives and sense of self after experiencing sexual violence. I also run my private practice, Cultivating Capacity, where I provide trauma-informed psychotherapy to victims, survivors, helpers, and healers of sexual assault, rape, incest, and childhood sexual abuse. My work is deeply personal, driven by the knowledge that no one should feel as alone as I once did. However, my aspirations extend beyond one-on-one therapy. I am currently pursuing a Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy (DMFT) to expand my ability to impact not only individuals but also systems of care. I aim to develop trauma-informed mental health programs, advocate for policy changes that improve access to care, and work to shift the cultural conversations around mental health. My goal is to leave a lasting impact—not just on my clients but on the broader structures that influence mental health care. Lived Experience and the Power of Awareness Living with depression and suicidal thoughts has given me a unique perspective on the importance of mental health awareness. For years, I internalized the stigma surrounding mental illness, believing that my struggles were a personal failing rather than a condition requiring support. I now know that stigma is one of the biggest barriers to seeking help, and I actively work to dismantle it through education and advocacy. As a therapist, I integrate psychoeducation into my work, helping clients understand that their mental health struggles are not weaknesses but valid, treatable conditions. In my professional and personal life, I openly discuss mental health to normalize conversations about seeking help. I also advocate for systemic change, particularly in how mental health care is delivered to survivors of trauma and marginalized communities. Being a federal employee in the Navy’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Response (SAPR) program has further expanded my understanding of how mental health challenges intersect with institutional and cultural barriers. Many survivors I work with feel trapped in systems that do not adequately support their recovery. By working within this space, I strive to create policies and initiatives that prioritize mental health care for those who have experienced trauma. The Impact of Mental Health on My Relationships Mental health struggles have also shaped my relationships, both in the challenges they have created and the strength they have fostered. For years, my depression and anxiety made it difficult to connect with others authentically. I carried a deep sense of shame and fear that my struggles would burden those around me. However, as I progressed in my healing, I learned the power of vulnerability in fostering meaningful connections. My experiences have allowed me to develop deeper empathy, which influences how I show up in my relationships. I have become a more patient, understanding, and present friend, partner, and clinician. I now know that real connection requires honesty, and I work to create spaces—both personally and professionally—where people feel safe being their authentic selves. Building a Future of Change The challenges I have faced with mental health have led me to a place of profound purpose. My struggles have given me insight into the pain that so many others experience, and my healing has shown me that hope is real. I aspire to continue making a difference through my clinical work, advocacy, and systemic change efforts. Through my practice, Cultivating Capacity, my work with the Navy SAPR program, and my pursuit of advanced education, I am dedicated to ensuring that survivors of trauma and those struggling with mental illness receive the care they deserve. I want to continue developing programs that bridge the gaps in mental health care, ensuring that no one is left without support. Ultimately, my experiences with mental health have shaped me into someone who refuses to stay silent in the face of suffering. They have driven me to dedicate my life to this field, to stand up for those who feel unseen, and to create pathways to healing for others. I am living proof that it is possible to move beyond pain and use it as a force for good. And that is the legacy I hope to leave.
    Online ADHD Diagnosis Mental Health Scholarship for Women
    I am currently pursuing higher education while working as a federal employee. My mental health plays a significant role in shaping my academic performance and personal life, as the anxiety of sustaining my academic journey and achieving my professional goals often weighs heavily on me. Balancing the demands of coursework with the unpredictability of federal employment can create stress, making it difficult to stay focused, motivated, and confident in my ability to complete my degree. One of the biggest challenges I face is the constant worry about job security and financial stability. As an impacted federal employee, I must carefully navigate the reality that my position could change, affecting my ability to afford tuition and complete my studies. This uncertainty fuels my anxiety, making it difficult to plan long-term and fully invest in my education without the fear that circumstances beyond my control could derail my progress. The mental strain of this unpredictability affects my ability to concentrate on coursework, sometimes leaving me feeling overwhelmed by the sheer weight of trying to manage both professional and academic responsibilities. Beyond financial and job stability concerns, my role as a federal employee also comes with demanding responsibilities that can make it difficult to maintain a sustainable work-life balance. The pressure to perform at a high level in my career, coupled with academic deadlines, often leads to exhaustion and stress. This strain can manifest as difficulty concentrating, disrupted sleep, and moments of self-doubt about whether I can sustain the demands of both my job and my education. Despite these challenges, I take intentional steps to prioritize my mental health, recognizing that without balance and self-care, I cannot succeed in either realm. One of the most important strategies I use is creating structured routines that help me manage my workload while maintaining personal well-being. I set realistic academic goals and break down coursework into manageable tasks to prevent feeling overwhelmed. This approach allows me to maintain a steady pace without succumbing to burnout. I also prioritize stress management by engaging in self-care practices that help me regulate my emotions. Regular massages provide relief from physical and emotional tension, helping me reset and recharge. Spending time with loved ones is another crucial part of maintaining my mental health, as their support reminds me that I am not alone in this journey. Reading serves as both an escape and a tool for personal growth, allowing me to gain new perspectives and cultivate resilience. Additionally, I work closely with my employer to maintain a work-life balance that supports both my professional and academic aspirations. I am fortunate to have a workplace that values education and encourages employees to grow in their careers. Open communication with my supervisors about my academic commitments has helped me manage expectations and navigate my responsibilities without sacrificing my mental health. Ultimately, while the anxiety of sustaining my academic journey as an impacted federal employee is a constant presence, I have learned to manage it by prioritizing self-care, structuring my workload, and seeking support from my community and workplace. These strategies allow me to persist in my education while maintaining my well-being. Pursuing higher education is a significant investment in my future, and by taking these proactive steps, I ensure that I can continue on this path without compromising my mental health.
    Ethel Hayes Destigmatization of Mental Health Scholarship
    My experience with mental health has profoundly shaped my goals, relationships, and understanding of the world. As a survivor of sexual violence, I intimately understand how trauma can affect every facet of a person’s life. It impacts not only the mind but also one’s sense of self, relationships, and worldview. This personal journey of navigating the effects of trauma and finding pathways to healing has been both transformative and enlightening. It has inspired my career as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and my dedication to creating spaces where others can begin their own healing journeys. My private practice, Cultivating Capacity, is the culmination of my professional and personal experiences. It provides accessible and personalized trauma-informed psychotherapy services uniquely designed for victims, survivors, helpers, and healers of sexual assault, rape, incest, and childhood sexual abuse. Through this practice, I aim to offer a space of safety and understanding, where individuals can process their trauma and move toward empowerment. By focusing on the specific needs of survivors and those who support them, I strive to make mental health care both equitable and meaningful. The work I do at Cultivating Capacity reflects my deeply held belief that healing from trauma is not linear but is always possible. I incorporate evidence-based practices with compassion, tailoring my approach to meet each client’s unique circumstances and strengths. My goal is not only to help survivors rebuild their sense of self but also to empower them to reclaim agency in their lives and relationships. This mission is informed by my own understanding of the resilience required to overcome trauma and by my commitment to advocating for those who often feel unseen or unheard. These experiences have also profoundly shaped my relationships. Personally, I have learned to cultivate empathy, active listening, and vulnerability in my interactions with others. I have come to understand that connection and compassion are at the heart of healing, both for myself and for the individuals I serve. Professionally, this understanding forms the foundation of my therapeutic approach, allowing me to build strong, trusting relationships with my clients. The lessons I’ve learned through my own journey help me to meet others where they are, offering support and validation while encouraging growth. My work as a Social Science Program Specialist for the Navy’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Response (SAPR) program has further expanded my understanding of how trauma intersects with larger systems. In this role, I advocate for survivors while navigating institutional structures that can often be barriers to healing. This work has reinforced my commitment to addressing trauma not only at the individual level but also within the broader systems that survivors encounter. Whether working with military or civilian populations, I strive to create a bridge between survivors and the resources they need to recover and thrive. Pursuing a Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy (DMFT) is the next step in my journey. The DMFT’s emphasis on systems thinking aligns with my goal of addressing trauma holistically. Survivors of sexual violence often face not only personal challenges but also systemic ones, such as stigma, lack of resources, and institutional barriers. My advanced studies will allow me to deepen my understanding of these systemic influences and develop innovative, trauma-informed approaches to care that address these broader contexts. I aim to integrate mental health services with education, prevention, and advocacy to create sustainable change for survivors and the communities that support them. My experience with mental health has also shaped my understanding of the world. I see it as a complex interplay of individual stories, relational dynamics, and systemic influences. Trauma does not occur in isolation; it exists within cultural, institutional, and social frameworks that can either exacerbate or mitigate its effects. This perspective has fueled my commitment to creating change at both micro and macro levels, ensuring survivors are supported not only in therapy but also within the broader systems they navigate. Through my private practice and my work with the Navy, I have witnessed the profound impact that a safe and supportive environment can have on individuals recovering from trauma. I have seen survivors move from feeling powerless and unseen to reclaiming their voices and rediscovering their inner strength. These transformations are what drive my passion for mental health and reinforce my belief in the power of trauma-informed care. Ultimately, my goal is to make a positive impact on the world by fostering spaces of healing and empowerment for survivors of sexual violence. Whether through Cultivating Capacity, my work with the SAPR program, or my future endeavors as a DMFT, I am dedicated to transforming pain into purpose. By addressing trauma at both individual and systemic levels, I hope to create a world where survivors are supported holistically, where systems are responsive to their needs, and where healing is accessible to all. This journey has taught me that mental health care is more than a profession—it is a mission to promote resilience, compassion, and systemic change. I believe that by combining my lived experience, professional expertise, and advanced education, I can continue to make a meaningful difference in the lives of survivors and the communities that surround them. Through these efforts, I strive to leave a legacy of hope, empowerment, and healing.
    Kourtney DeBoer Student Profile | Bold.org