A rugby family represents belonging, accountability, and mutual respect. It’s a community where effort is valued as much as skill, and where teammates push each other not just to play better, but to be better. A rugby family doesn’t rely on individual talent—it thrives on unity, resilience, and shared goals.
Throughout my life, I’ve explored many sports: gymnastics, wrestling, volleyball, and soccer. Each challenged me in different ways, but none of them had the same initial impact as rugby. Despite my Polynesian heritage, I didn’t grow up playing the sport. It wasn’t until 2024, while I was in New Zealand, that I first held a rugby ball. I had made friends out there and they were surprised that I had never touched a rugby ball, let alone play a game, and they took it upon themselves to teach me the basics of a 7s touch match. At first, it was confusing and uncomfortable, but seeing the love they had for the sport, I kept trying. And then, months later, as a first-year student at San Diego State University, I was searching for a way to stay active. I had considered joining soccer again as I played all through high school, until I came across a group of girls tabling for the women’s rugby team on campus. Back home, the closest rugby program was hours away, so this felt like a rare opportunity to explore something new. I went to the first open practice with no expectations, but I was immediately welcomed. The team’s energy was competitive, yet supportive. Everyone was focused on improving, but no one was left behind.
Since joining the team, rugby has become more than just a sport to me. It’s a consistent space where I can challenge myself physically and mentally while being surrounded by people who genuinely care about each other. The structure of rugby, the communication, the physical intensity, the reliance on trust, has taught me discipline and patience. It’s also given me a better understanding of what real teamwork looks like: pushing and challenging each other out of love rather than hateful competition. My first 7s tournament was a defining experience. I was nervous, inexperienced, and worried about making mistakes. But my teammates’ encouragement made all the difference. They not only celebrated the try I had, but all the small wins throughout the day. Looking ahead, my hope for playing rugby in college is to continue developing as both an athlete and a teammate. I want to strengthen my skills, contribute to my team’s success, and help maintain the welcoming, hardworking culture that drew me in. To be a cornerstone for these women to lean on and build off of.