When I was much younger, around twelve years old my grand aunt came to live with us and deeply impacted my life. As a kid I thought she was annoying, and got in the way of how things were supposed to go. However, once she passed I realized that she was teaching me to be a better man, and to embrace change whenever it strikes. My grandaunt, better known as aunt Bee, was one of the sweetest and most loving people I was ever lucky enough to meet.
Everyday when I got home, I’d immediately put my schoolwork down to go play outside, go on my laptop, or watch television. This all changed once aunt Bee started living with us, she was determined to make sure I grew into an excellent man, enforcing discipline and by teaching me manners. Instead of allowing me to slack off after school, aunt Bee would pinch my ear and nag at me to do my chores, do my homework, or do anything productive. I’d cry, yell, run away, and do whatever I could to get out of doing the work I should’ve already completed. However, she was more persistent than I was stubborn, which led me to learn to complete work first and enjoy myself afterwards. Aunt Bee would always watch old shows with me, and we’d enjoy the time we had together despite all our bickering. More importantly, aunt Bee taught me how to use my manners and treat everyone with respect. In her old age she loved to treat me to the local restaurants around, however she always had me do the talking and scolded me right there whenever I was less than dignified talking to people. Of course at the time, I got extremely annoyed and embarrassed whenever she’d correct me in front of people. What I didn’t know was that this is the reason why even today I treat elders and peers with respect, and keep myself composed in stressful situations. Despite all the different ways aunt Bee would tell me off, I still loved her deeply, which made the oncoming years much harder to process alone.
Change is always a hard concept to grasp, especially as a kid. After nearly two years living with aunt Bee, I’d gotten used to her presence. Whether it was laughing at old reruns with me, scolding me for being lazy, or coming out to see me in school events, she was always there. Then in 2020, it was her time, and I had to face the biggest change of my life without her. Coming home after a long day of school just to not see her waiting for me on the couch, and not having someone to push me to do better in school each day was hard to adapt to. The death of someone close to you is the biggest change in the world, and regardless of how you feel the world keeps moving. Aunt Bee left my life just as fast as she entered it, but the impact she had on me will stay with me forever. Like her, change comes whether you want it to or not, and it’s your decision whether to make the most of it, or to let it hold you back. Aunt Bee was an excellent woman who loved me and my whole family dearly, and I wish she could've lived longer to see the man she shaped me into.