"I chased some ideal my entire life" - a line from Olivia Rodrigo's song 'Pretty Isn't Pretty Enough' from her Guts album that has resinated with me since I first heard it. Olivia, I believe, will be a passing artist, just because her sound is so tuned to todays trends. But her lyrics make a point to relate to teenagers everywhere, and I believe will remain true for decades to come.
In this song, Olivia's whole point is that the standards society has put on women is crushing. Since social media began to skyrocket, mental heath and body image have been at a constant and terrifyingly steep decline. I can't think of a single teenage girl I know who thinks her hair is absolutely perfect, or thinks her bra and/or hip size is just right, or who feels like they don't need to be anything for anyone but themselves. No. No one is confident anymore. Because there are models in adds everywhere you turn, and influencers who's eyes sparkle and their hair falls just the right way. Because of social media, we think that this is the standard of society, so that's the standard we set for ourselves. This leads to eating disorders, self harm, and outright depression.
But not only that, because of this, it's also the idea we push onto other people. And so we talk, and gossip, and criticize. All the while feeling insecure ourselves. But it is the persona of confidence that shields the self-consciousness from view, making other feel the push of these same standards as well. She's doesn't love herself or her body, but she acts like she does, and then turns around and makes fun of someone else for what they look like. We tell each other that if we don't look perfect, we aren't worth it. Aren't worth talking to, speaking up for, loving.
And this 'Ideal' that Olivia is talking about that she has been chasing her whole life, so have we. This is it. It's the idea that perfection is the standard. It's the thought that we aren't worth anything at all if we don't look like the cover of a magazine. And regardless of if she's rated a one or a ten, she still believes this way.
"If only my nose was a little smaller."
"If only my hair were straighter."
"If only I was thinner, or taller, or my eyelashes were longer or my skin clearer or my face softer or my lips pinker" or anything else that might be even imaginable down to "I wish I wasn't me."
And that's the real problem.
We get to a point where we don't even what to be who we are anymore. We wish we were the girl on the cover of that magazine.
And that's why Olivia's lyrics resonate so true with her audience. Because she speaks the truth about herself, outing her worst faults with utmost candor, and it applies to everyone else.
It deffinelty applies to me.