When I was very young, my father left our family of four, leaving my mother to raise my brother and I alone. She soon began abusing drugs and lost her job. After that brutal loss and much coaxing from other family members, we moved from Missouri to Oklahoma to live with my maternal grandmother. Unfortunately, the drug use continued with my mother until my grandmother took the steps to obtain guardianship of my brother and I when I was around 5 years old, and my brother was 10 years old. My mother was never allowed to live with us, but she was in and out periodically during the next several years.
Luckily my single grandmother had a good job and was able to raise us without much difficulty and was always very honest with me when I would ask pressing questions about my mother. My brother regretfully experienced more of my mother's drug abuse than I did which caused him even more issues with trauma and abandonment, in turn took these angers and frustrations out on me. I realized early on that my life was not like those of many of my friends who had a two-parent home with loving siblings that were very close, and I feel that made me determined to be the person that I am today. I am one of the lucky ones to say that my mother finally got clean and has been so for the past five years, but I have never seen my dad and doubt I ever will.
I have always been a good student, excelling in English, reading and writing, finding the love of researching things that I believed in. I feel we were all created equal and should have the same rights as others. It didn't matter to me what race, religion, sex or sexual orientation a person was, I felt that we all need to have someone stand up for them, in a way that my grandmother stood up for us. I know it was hard for her to take her own daughter's children and raise them, but she did what was right in her eyes that was best for us. She showed me that hard work, caring, compassion and being ethical in everyday life was the best way to succeed in life.
I have had on a couple of thoughts of what I wanted to be when I grew up and for years planned into going into dentistry but decided that I still want a career that can help people, but something that schooling might not be as lengthy, and I could still make an impact on the lives of others. Since I really do love the research and debating my philosophy, I have made the decision to pursue a degree in Criminal Justice and Sociology. I don't want a handout, but I don't want to go into thousands of dollars in debt either, so with the step approach I can get a job and make money while I continue to pursue my graduate degree and hopefully beyond with minimal loans. I have a plan, and my plan is to succeed in life like my grandmother taught me.