I have seen many health issues around me in my community but the one that stands out the most to me has been mental health. I’ve seen it in strangers, seen it in students, my friends, and in my family. It is one of the biggest issues, I feel, that has been a problem, not just in my community, but in the world for a long time. In school, I have seen it claim lives, not just physically, but mentally as well. People go from 100% giving it their all, to a generous 10%. You see their grades drop, but also the smile on their face looks more tired each day. As students, and especially as influenceable children, it has been normalized not to get a good amount of sleep, not to eat nutritious foods, to have social media; all a formula and symptoms of negative mental health. However, my closest experience with mental health, was, unfortunately, found in my family.
Growing up, you can see when someone is hurt physically, but as a young child I never noticed how mentally hurt my grandfather was. He was a good person, always a little off, but he treated people well. When I was little, and we all lived in the small town of Eatonville, WA, he would pick me up every day after school. Once a month, or maybe three, we would get a donut, and go home to watch a random show. Now, those are my most treasured memories. Up until three years ago, I had always thought that he was simply like everyone that had a heathy mindset of life, and its gifts. That his little outbursts here and there, were simply to rant. That the verbal harassment he took from his partner, was simply her nagging, and was reciprocated by him every once and a while. That’s what everybody in my family thought. But now its been realized, that our passive behavior may have inadvertently, instead of “not interfering with others business”, was what lead up to my only grandfather giving up on his life, multiple times. Fortunately none of them were successful but I know it could have been the same story with a different ending. I feel that if my family had known the signs, amongst other things, then my grandpa could have gotten the help and resources he needed to recover and live the rest of his life in peace, instead of the pain he is in now. I feel so many things, and think about what I could have done. But at the end of the day, it is never going to be my fault, his fault, my families fault, or anyone’s for that matter. At the end of the day, support is the biggest things someone could have when struggling with mental health. It could be cooking or baking for them. It could be a sincere letter or text. It could be an I love you or a hug. What I believe, is that prevention can be anything one can provide in someone’s life.