My experience as a child of a single mother has proven to be a blessing. To have the love, support, and perseverance that my mother provides have guided my life and taught me valuable life lessons.
Life lesson #1: A setback is a setup for something bigger and better. No one plans to be a single parent, let alone take full responsibility for raising and providing for a child by oneself. My mother had no other choice but to care, support, and provide for me when my father was not there to parent. My mother had to – and still – sacrifice herself, time, money, and energy to make sure I was taken care of by the best standards. My mother works two jobs to support us, and she does this with contentment, knowing her work is toward the bigger picture of my success with going to a secondary school and pursuing my dreams and career. Her time and self are sacrifices she makes, including support and doing her best to be present for my events and extracurricular activities. Albeit it was not ideal to be a single parent, my mother makes the best of the situation, and surprisingly what could have been a challenging situation has brought many blessings our way.
Life lesson #2: Tough times don't last, but tough people do. Some hard times were growing up being raised by a single mother that I can look back on now and think that hardship didn't destroy me mentally or physically, and I am more vital for coming over it as an example for others in knowing you can make it. Accountability is an attribute my mother has cultivated in me. Being responsible for myself and my actions show a person's true character, especially when faced with complex and brutal consequences. My mother took accountability for her actions, resulting in her having to redeem herself by serving time. During her time of redemption, she learned from her mistakes, grew closer in her faith and trust in the Lord, and had the self-motivation and determination to come out of this time a more robust, better person – a thriver and survivor. In this period of growth, she understood her assignment to become an example to me and others that she mentors, using her voice to let others know there is light at the end of the tunnel and to keep striving for better. My mother's past has taught me to do better and be better, and as a parent, my mother has set the goal and the standard of how I should move in this life. I lean on my mother for support and love. Because of my mother's past, I know I can persevere, work through tough times, and come out on the other side and conquer.
Life lesson #3: Have faith and trust it will work out for good. Through it all, my mother has instilled in me to have faith and trust in the Lord. The adversities my mother has overcome would not have been accomplished without her trust and confidence in the Lord. My mother's faith has guided her through the most challenging times of her life, and the Lod has continued to bless her spiritually and physically.
The adversity a person faces builds character; the struggle is hard but beautiful. I have learned so much about myself through my mother, and I am grateful for her being my parent. My mother's determination, perseverance, love, and tenacity have shaped my life and made me appreciate, accept, and overcome the challenges I face.