To begin wiht, my story is a little different. I did not find my chosen family and my parents until I was sixteen.
My biological mother was mentally unstable and abused me physically, sexually, and mentally and trafficked me out to other people. She committed suicide when I was sixteen and my maternal grandmother was given custody of me. My grandmother works in Mexico for three out of four weeks every month. When she was out of the country, I was essentially left to figure out living arrangements on my own. I slept on friends couches, sometimes hid at school in the bathroom, and sometimes slept on the park bench outside of our neighborhood. After a year of living like this, a former teacher at Cornerstone found out about the sitaution and invited me to live with her and her family. She already loved me and I her.
My family and I chose each other. When I was brought in to live with the Padgetts, Mr. Padgett, or Pop, was a huge influence in my life and in my perspective as a young women. I had never really had a full-time father figure and as I got to know him, I realized that there were stark similiarities between our lives. His mother was also mentally unstable, and he too had been subjected to mental and physical abuse. It was probably the first time an adult in my life could relate to some of my
experiences from a personal perspective. Pop and I had a connection from the start! The first night I arrived, I had to be taken to the ER for a head injury after falling off my skate board. Pop immediately took on the father role and held my hand through all of it while Yaya (Mrs. P) dealth with logistics At the end, he even said, "Like all new babies, she kept us up all night." He is funny, supportive, reasonable, compassionate, and treats me like his daughter.
My chosen parents have helped to shape who I am as a young woman, what I believe, and what I expect for myself from others.They have helped me discover my value and to find respect for myself. Together we have developed a plan for my furture. My greatest life goal is to join the military and use my training and education to transition to a government organization like the FBI or CIA to combat human trafficking in our country and around the world. This dream came to be as a result of my experiences as a child. As someone who was trafficked to wealthy men by their own bilological mother,I cannot imagine allowing this to happen to another soul.
I have worked hard academically, and I am grateful to have been given the opportunity to attend Texas A & M University in the Fall. I will be joining the Corps of Cadets with a goal of entering the military following graduation and then applying to join the CIA. With a degree in Criminology and Forensic Science, I pray that I will possess the education, the experience, the passion, and the skills to make a difference in the world and stop the scourge of human trafficking.
I am a survivor and with God’s grace and a lot of grit! My chosen family (dad, mom, grandparents, brothers, sisters-in-law, niece, and nephew) have shown me what a real family that loves and supports truly looks like. While I know we are not a typical "blended" family, we are a family, and they are the reason I have and will achieve my goals.