Practicing kindness, like any skill, must be nurtured, developed, and strengthened over time. As I reflect back on my life, I can identify several moments of inspiration that brought me to where I am today. I’d like to share those influences with you, in what I could call a “Be Kind Rewind” telling of my story. You can see pictures of my stories in the uploaded file, or by using this link: https://tinyurl.com/jamisontower.
Kindness Starts at Home
When I was five, my parents and I flew half-way around the world to the small town of Gliwice, Poland, to meet my new “baby” sister (she was three). I’ll always remember that first day we met Aven – she was so tiny and so scared. She had already been through a lot in her short life. I was excited to be a big brother, and I was eager for her to play with me. I vividly remember being in that orphanage in Gliwice, inviting my sister to play with me, and the distrust and fear I saw in her eyes. I wasn’t prepared for the challenges our whole family would face as we got Aven settled into our family. She was scared and she was also angry, alone, and in an unfamiliar world. Her reaction to new situations was often physical. However, I learned quickly that no matter how she reacted to me, the best choice for me was to show her kindness in return. It wasn’t always easy, but I could see how a kind response to her frustrations took the anger out of the situation, and helped her calm down and learn to trust. The transformation we saw in Aven over time was amazing, and truly showed me the power of kindness. The experience of bringing Aven home, and helping her find her place in our family, was so impactful to me that I even wrote about the experience for my contribution to my fifth-grade class’s graduation book, in a piece I called “Out of This Country Kindness.”
Serve a Cause Greater than Yourself
Aven and I grew up in a military family, with my dad serving twenty years of active duty with the Army. In addition to emphasizing the importance of timeliness, the Army is an institution with a number of sayings that boil the Army philosophy down into easy to remember phrases. These sayings have become second nature to me – a failure to plan is a plan to fail, no plan survives first contact – and they have been great reminders to be intentional, and adaptable, in everything I do. But the one adage that is most core to who I am today is the one my dad most often repeated: Serve a cause greater than yourself.
I have tried to live out this philosophy in ways big and small. For example, I have been a part of dozens of sports teams over the years, from ice hockey to baseball to soccer. On each team, while I gave my all on the ice or on the field, I was never the “star” player, but I viewed my most important role as being the glue on each team. I helped new players, mentored younger guys, and supported the coach or captain in motivating our players. In school, I found opportunities to take on leadership roles to help make my school and school community the best it could be. I was a mentor to incoming freshman as a Trained Student Leader, I represented my high school at Junior State of Ohio, and helped our school take home the most awards at the DECA state and national competitions. Along with my academic load, I took on two leadership roles in my senior year that allowed me to have a significant impact on my class: president of the Senior Class and president of the National Honor Society. As a freshman at Harvard, I have sought similar opportunities, and to date one of my most rewarding roles has been as a Diversity and Mentorship lead for the Harvard Undergraduate Research Association.
How Can I Help?
One month before my sixth birthday, my 35-year-old mom had a heart attack and nearly died. I will never forget the feeling of helplessness of walking into her hospital room and seeing her hooked up to all the tubes and monitors. I had always known my family had a genetic condition called familial hypercholesterolemia, or FH, but until that moment I didn’t really understand the significance of it. It was FH that caused my mom’s heart disease, and even though I was young, I knew I wanted to help her.
As I got older, I learned more about the effects of FH, and I saw my mom undergo more heart surgeries. I knew I wanted to be a part of the solution, and so when I was 16, I became the youngest trained Ambassador for the Family Heart Foundation, an organization dedicated to raising awareness of and treatment for FH (70% of people in the U.S. who have FH are undiagnosed). In my role with Family Heart, I have had the opportunity to share my family’s story through social media campaigns, fundraisers, and monthly meetings. Together with my cousin, we raised nearly $5000 for Family Heart, and I remain actively engaged today. My experience with my mom and Family Heart has inspired my goal to become a doctor who also advocates on behalf of families living with FH. I want to make a difference not only in the lives of my individual patients, but in the experience of everyone living with FH. This is ultimately what kindness means to me – finding ways to help others, which in turn gives purpose to my life.
I learned early the power of kindness through my sister, and I saw the incredible impact even small acts of kindness can have throughout high school. As a doctor, I will continue to practice kindness along with practicing medicine.