I am a selfish person. This has always been my reality, and yet I have only recently come to terms with it.
I realized my innate selfishness after my mother’s head injury. She refused to get treatment, forcing me to watch the jubilance dissipate from her eyes, leaving only a semblance of who she once was. I was left to look after my younger siblings, yet I found myself needing her more than any of them. The person who was only 17 at my birth and a single mother was my biggest example of selflessness. She would donate her last penny to anyone struggling, teaching me that altruism was a virtue. I was willing to risk it all to bring that piece of her back.
In hopes of finding a cure, I plunged into the world of neuroscience and psychology for an answer to my question: “Can brain damage be reversed?” I sought to help her when I knew nothing of what I could help with - triggering a deep love of cognitive neuroscience. From then on, I realized that the study of chemistry and neuroanatomy deeply moved my soul for some obstinate reason. This is what I had always wanted for my life; however, this was not solely for the reason of wanting to help people, but because I found that my efforts brought me my own kind of joy. So ultimately, I can say that I pursued neuroscience for a purely acquisitive purpose.
I found myself looking for answers in everything: how do electrical pulses in a brain organize into a coherent soul? I found that I did believe in souls, for I could see it in colors around people. I could look at a person and deduce what made them good or bad, what drove them, and what they aspired to be beyond anything. This only led to more questions. I hungered for every answer, yet I knew that upon gaining it, I would only thirst for more. I found myself benevolent to that which stalled me. For that, I am selfish.
I had always been an eclectic person, collecting hobbies and skills like cards in a deck, pulling out whichever one made me the happiest at that moment. I found that I loved art, music, writing, science, and everything in between. I especially loved writing about subjects I was passionate about, such as my junior year essay about the dramatic costs of healthcare. Not because I wanted others to hear my words, but rather because I wanted to learn to wield them myself. Though I did enjoy showing my findings, I relish learning about them so much more. For that, I am selfish.
Due to that same selfishness, I found that I found joy in lending to others, for I realized it would inevitably come back to me. I started standing on the side of the road waving a sign that read, “YOU MATTER!” I did this not wholly because I wanted passerby to believe that but because I wanted myself - and those beside me - to believe it as well. I found that if I gave part of myself away, I could get so much more back. I started obsessively applying to clubs, taking officer positions so that I could give that part of me to others - only so I could feed my ambitions. For that, I am selfish.
I began to draft an organization that would help me with my purpose: to connect me to others. In looking for ways in which I could improve myself, an organization was created. My organization, Cultivating Compassion, was created in order to better link humans against a universal foe: stagnation. I hoped that we could find solace in each other through this group, and act against stagnation in order to best utilize our generativity for change. As change-makers, there is nothing worse than stagnation in a world where humans can do some good. In light of this, my organization hopes to cultivate compassionate learning for others in order to induce a world of cooperation. I did this not only for others but because I wished to become a change-maker myself. For that, I am selfish.
My mother’s head injury was not the worst event. Not only did she recover, but throughout her journey I found myself learning from her flaws, building upon myself as though I was a tower reaching toward the heavens. Each brick I put down served as a marking: artist, musician, dreamer, coder, mathematician, teacher, student, and much more. I learned through this journey that my mother did not in fact exhibit the highest form of selflessness, but rather the most humble form of selfishness. Through this selfishness I learned the key to change: first, you must look to change yourself. My selfishness is now my favorite trait.