All I have ever known is how to be a military kid. I have the clearest memories of being on base, playing in those military-grade play rooms with the big televisions and tall slides. I can still picture the Navy base in Georgia that always had the cutest sunglasses and Nike shoes. Most of all, I remember when my parents sat me down for the first time and told me the military was moving us to Georgia; we would move to a new place with a new house, new people, new school, new everything. We soon moved into a smaller house in St. Marys, and it felt like my world was turned upside down.
It was then that my mom began receiving deployment orders to the submarine, usually for two to five months at a time. She missed Christmases, birthdays, and anniversaries, but every day she was away felt like an important moment missing from our lives, because everything felt emptier without her. I did not think it could get much harder until 2019, when she received orders to deploy to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba for nine months. For the better part of those nine months, I lived with a family friend and choked down tears any time anyone asked how I was doing; that was my reality as a military child.
As difficult as those moments were, they changed the way I saw my parents; I began to understand that they were sacrificing, too. This realization deepened my respect for them as I acknowledged that I wasn't the only one suffering.
Despite the challenges, being a military child has also been incredibly rewarding. I vividly remember when my dad returned home from Iraq. I was four years old at the time, and I had not a clue in the world what he was doing, where he was, or the sacrifices he was making for America and for me. He walked through the door late at night and stood in full uniform with a duffel bag in his hand. The next thing I remember, I was wrapped up in the biggest hug I had ever felt. Deployments are by far the most difficult journey as a child of military parents, but when they return, all those late nights spent worrying, crying, and praying for your parents to come home safely suddenly do not feel so wasted.
Moving from place to place also gave me the chance to form meaningful friendships. Even though I often had to leave those friends behind, I learned to appreciate the time I was given in different places, and see it not as an inconvenience, but rather as a blessing that I had the opportunity to bring more love into my life. In fact, I could not be prouder to be a military kid, because to me, being a military kid means that I am the child of a hero. Two heroes, actually. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Most importantly, growing up a military child has taught me to realize that it does not take some outstanding achievement or major wound on the battlefield to make a hero. It is not a status that can be attained through medals or special recognitions. Being a hero takes hard work, courage, sacrifice, and ultimately, it takes selfless love. Overall, being a military child has impacted my drive and ambition because I want to be exactly like my mom and dad; I want to be selfless, courageous, and hardworking just like them, and later in life, I strive to become even half the heroes they are to me.