“I do.” These are the words I said that changed my life on September third, 2022. I was solidifying my relationship with my soon-to-be husband and entering an entirely new phase of my life at nineteen. Need a little more background info? I met my husband, Alexis Ricardo, during the fall semester of my first year of college at the University of Cincinnati, I was studying introductory engineering and he was learning English through my university’s ELS courses. We grew very close and started dating within weeks of meeting each other; it makes me smile to think about how much we found out we had in common despite having totally different backgrounds. He was a little bit taller than me with short black hair and coffee-colored skin; with a love for Latin pop music and partying with friends, it wasn’t surprising he grew up in Panamã City, the capital of Panamã. I, on the other hand, was a boy raised in semi-rural Kentucky with blue-green eyes and short dirty blonde hair. I had a strong affinity for all things related to rock and heavy metal.
I look back on that first semester with a lot of nostalgia and familiarity; we spent all of our free time together exploring the city of Cincinnati. As we were visiting parks, restaurants, museums, and bookstores, we began to really learn about each other and grow together. I had felt so much pressure and anxiety about starting college and living on campus during the summer of 2021, but Alexis seemed to take all of those worries away. After a few months into our relationship, I introduced him to my family. I remember they were so visibly glad to see how happy and comfortable I was; I also remember how visibly nervous my (at the time) boyfriend was during the car ride to meet them. He spent his first Christmas away from his family with mine; despite my not-so-great Spanish, I reminded him that “Mi familia es tu familia.” I was able to talk with his family through video chat (with the help of his translating, of course) from time to time and found them to be just as supportive and understanding as my own family.
Once the cold and somewhat icy months of February came around, we both felt an overwhelming sense of dread. Alexis’ session of ELS classes was coming to a close and he would have to come back to his home country of Panamã. Those final weeks we spent together were a flurry of emotions; saying goodbye to friends who had to return to their home countries, trying to cope with not being able to see each other, and the bittersweet feeling of my boyfriend finally seeing his friends, family, and country again. I remember I was a complete mess watching cross through TSA at the airport. The next few months were filled with long texts and hours of video calls; despite being full of melancholy, we were determined not to give up on our relationship.
After finishing up my summer class, I was able to travel to Panamã and visit Alexis and his family. I only had eleven days, but I fell in love with the culture and the people I met. The day before I had to leave for the airport was the day Alexis prosed to me and became my fiancé, and through perseverance, dedication, and patience, my future husband was able to travel back to the United States for us to start our life together. My goal is to show that with love, anything is possible.