Becoming an educator was my first choice of career. I went as far as to spend the first two years of my schooling studying to become a teacher. As a first-year student, I studied Elementary Education. A year later I changed my major to Middle Level education, but something still wasn't quite right. I knew I wanted to work with students, but I did not like the occupation I chose. I wanted to stay in a school because I felt a school is the best place to make a difference in a child's life. I originally chose to teach because a select few teachers were the ones that helped me growing up, but I was starting to realize that teaching was not what I wanted to do. I was sitting with my placement teacher during observations in a middle school math classroom during my junior year of my bachelor's degree, and that is when I realized what I wanted to do. I was very honest with my placement teacher that I was not sure if I wanted to teach. I was actually dreading student teaching. We had a conversation about what I wanted out of my career. I wanted to work with students that were coming from broken homes. Students that feel that life is an obstacle and are becoming enveloped in hopelessness. Students that are in similar situations that I was.
She then gave me the idea of becoming a school counselor. She told me a little bit about a school counselor's job and what they do, and that is when I decided that school counseling would be perfect for me. I never thought about potentially becoming a school counselor because I thought of the stereotypical guidance counselor. That was what my counselor was when I was in school. She typically was only around to talk about scheduling, careers after high school, or how to prepare for college. However, I took the information I got from my placement teacher and began talking to professors at the university about school counseling. I found that the profession was drastically different than what I believed it to be. That is partly due to the need rising from the mental health crisis and more awareness of mental health in recent years. School counselors used to fill the stereotypical role I thought them to fill. They were placed in schools to prepare students for further education. This was around the time when wars were occuring and the country needed to push more individuals into the math and science fields. The profession has evolved to become more of a mental health professional, as well as a career and academic counselor in the building.
After I spoke with many professors and individuals knowledgeable about school counseling, I decided to change my major to Psychology. I wanted to really focus on the mental health aspect of being a school counselor because that was ultimately the population of students I wanted to work with in my career. Even when I was an education major I knew that was the population I wanted to work with as a teacher. I remember writing in every professional development paper I wrote that my priority was the students' mental health. I could not care less if my student remembered that mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell, but I did want every student to walk out of my classroom knowing that at least one adult in the building cared for them. As a psychology major, I took as many classes as possible studying mental health. I specifically wanted to take any classes that focused on children. Many of the classes I took were things like child development, crisis intervention, and any DSM courses available. I only spent two years as a psychology major before graduating. I was happy to have stayed on track despite changing majors so many times, but I wished I could have had more time to take additional psychology courses that I missed out on like helping skills. I began graduate school at the same university I completed my bachelor's degree the fall after I graduated.
I have written a lot about my journey to deciding to become a school counselor, but I have only hinted at why I developed a passion to work with students in unfortunate situations to begin with. Long story short, I was one of the kids that I want to work with now. I was a child that was off to a bad start from the very beginning. Unfortunately, I was just born in the situation I was in and that is how life plays out for some people. Some of these students that act up in school are crying out for help and that is why understanding mental health is so important. I was one of the "bad kids" in school. I was always causing trouble. I would yell at my teachers, I would vandalize the classroom, would fight with my peers, both physically and verbally. To put it lightly, I was not a good student and I constantly got in trouble for it. Many teachers saw a child that had no parental guidance and needed to be punished. They were partially correct in that thought process. Behind every action was a child that was struggling to cope with their mental health that was caused by things that were happening at home. Teachers weren't aware that I was acting out because I was hungry because my only meal was the free lunch I got at school, or I was tired because I did not sleep the night prior because I was so scared of my dad or my sister, or that I was angry because my sister sexually abused me, or I was in pain because my dad beat me the day prior because he drank too much and got upset, or that I was jealous of my peers because they had money and I was on the verge of homelessness. None of my teachers knew that I was struggling with mental health. That wasn't until 4th grade when a teacher pulled me aside because I was about to be sent to the office again for wearing jeans that had huge holes in them. I wore these jeans every day to school and my teacher could not understand why I kept wearing them if I got into trouble for it every day so she decided to ask. With tears in my eyes, I yelled at her in frustration. I yelled that they were the only pair a had. That was when the select few teachers I mentioned began to look out for me a little more. However, there was still a dire mental health issue on hand that no one was helping me with. It eventually got to the point where I was contemplating suicide and went as far as developing a plan, but was interrupted so I never went through with it. Suicidal ideations crept up again early in my college career.
I battled depression for a very long time. Much of that time was spent doing it alone. I am in a much better place mentally. I believe a large part of that is due to getting out of the situation I was in. My way out was by joining the military which has allowed me to begin pursuing my passion to help other children in dire need of help. I am already doing my best to help make a difference for students, even before I have graduated. I have a job on campus where I work with students in special education, and another job at a local school district where I fill long-term substitute positions also working with students in special education. I have a goal set for myself in my career. When I graduated from my military training, I went back to my school district to thank those select few teachers and tell them how I'm doing now. I had one interaction that stuck with me. My teacher began to cry when she heard how much better I'm doing and how much I'd changed since graduating high school. I told her how grateful I was for everything she did because I was in a really bad place growing up. She told me that she became a teacher to make a difference for kids and that she was so grateful to have one student come back and tell her how much she made a difference for them. That is what I want for my career. I want to be a role model for students that are struggling with mental health. I do not believe I am anything special, but I do believe I have the passion to help children in need, even when no one else will.