Since early high school, Billie Eilish has resonated with me in a deep and personal way. I find myself understood through her lyrics and musical genre. I find Eilish’s songs raw, current, and emotional on another level. It is rare to see these qualities in artists with a similar style to Eilish.
Three songs that stick out to me most are ‘Happier Than Ever’, ‘everything i wanted’, and ‘idontwannabeyouanymore’. I chose these songs because I often listen to them and compare them to life experiences that shaped me into who I am today. These experiences resemble struggling with self-doubt, but eventually, they encourage me to express my inner voice.
‘Happier Than Ever’ describes a relationship between Eilish and someone she was with at the time. This relationship was not necessarily bad, but it was not healthy for her either. Years ago, I was part of a friendship that was uncomfortable for me. She was not a bad friend towards me, but I could tell by being around that friend that I was changing into someone that I did not recognize or want to become.
Listening to the lyrics as a junior in high school, I saw similarities in that friendship and Eilish’s relationship described in the song. The following year, when that friend had moved to a different city, I felt that it was best to distance myself from her. Even though it was hard to let that friendship go, I realized that sometimes even things that are not harmful to you have to come to an end.
In the song ‘everything i wanted’ it portrays how Eilish has a dream where she takes her own life and everyone turns her back on her, but one person. In early high school, I struggled with my mental health often because I felt as though I was often alone and struggled to make friends. However, listening to this song made me appreciate my best friend, who is still in my life today.
In the music video for this song, Eilish appears to be struggling with something, but shows how her brother, who is also her best friend, is there for her. My best friend is like a sister to me and has been there for me through thick and thin. Even though at 21 years old I can still feel alone at times, ‘everything i wanted’ allows me to treasure the lifelong friendship that I do have.
The final song, ‘idontwannabeyouanymore’ has resonated with me most of all. To me, the song expresses the conflict of attempting to be someone else due to societal expectations. For as long as I can remember, I have been in a constant battle of trying to become someone else, or trying too hard to be different from everyone else. Feeling comfortable in my skin is still a large struggle for me, but this song inspires me to be kinder to myself.
The message of self-hatred portrayed in this song is so strong that it reminds me of what an awful feeling it is not to be comfortable in yourself. During times when I was unapologetically me, I remember being the happiest I have ever been. Because I can recall Eilish’s messages through song, I can try to remember to be better for myself and those around me.
These three songs were released during different stages of my life, but have all led me through emotional and personal realizations about myself and the life I live. I am confident that Eilish’s music will continue to influence my identity, self-love, and overall outlook on life for years ahead.