Depression is a mental illness that affects millions of people worldwide. It is fluid, manifesting in different forms and triggered by different things. For me, my depression was tied tightly to my nonbinary gender identity, and it had, and still has, a significant impact on my life. However, the longer I lived with my depression, the more I realized something: depression is a weed. And like a weed, it just grows back when you dig it up. By expressing myself and sharing the stories in my head through art, I began to learn to live with my depression instead of trying to make it go away.
When I was a child, I often felt as if I didn’t fit into the gender roles assigned to me. I didn’t feel comfortable being labeled as a girl and often told my parents and siblings that I wanted to be a boy, even though I also didn’t feel like a boy. Of course, my Christian family did not take kindly to that and said that to reject our given bodies was to reject God. It wasn’t until I discovered the term “nonbinary” that I finally found a fit. However, that discovery also brought about a sense of confusion and anxiety.
I struggled for three years to accept myself and my secret nonbinary identity—which I often wished was a secret to even myself. I constantly felt like I had to choose between being true to myself or conforming to what was considered “normal.” This internal battle took a serious toll on my mental health, and I soon found myself sinking into a deep depression.
Daily tasks became overwhelming. Simple tasks that I used to complete with ease took great effort; just getting out of bed was a struggle. I slept through classes, my grades suffered, but I didn’t care. That year, I made two attempts on my life.
Amidst all the chaos, I returned to a childhood passion: art. I created an account on Instagram where I could identify how I wanted and share my art with others who resonated with it. I watched in awe as my account grew to eighteen thousand followers, and my photographs won multiple contests. The love and recognition I was receiving sparked a realization in me—I live for the applause.
I now have a clear goal: to become a famous artist, photographer, and animator. I want my work to reach people across the globe and make them feel seen, just as art does for me. Every day, I work toward that goal, and every day I get closer and closer to achieving it. I’ve taken on freelance commissions (in both art and photography), collaborated with other creators, and started animating short videos with my original characters.
Eventually, I found the courage to come out to my mom. To my surprise, she was incredibly accepting and supportive. Her acceptance was a turning point for me. It gave me the confidence to fully embrace my “enby” identity and be open about it with others. My father—sadly—told me he would never respect my identity, but I am done dwelling on the opinions of dogmatic individuals.
Today, I’m proud of who I am. I still have rough days, and I still face people who won’t accept me, but I also have a support system, a growing career in art, and a vision I believe in. I will keep creating, keep sharing, and keep growing—because I know who I am, and I know where I’m going. Art has become my voice, and it’s one I plan to keep using loudly.