When I was ten years old my first real experience with the darker side of mental health and my understanding of its importance began. When my great aunt, Estella, died in 2016, I watched my mother and grandmother experience the pain of grief. It looked very different from how I experienced it. How I felt that grief was different than the way my brother seemed to feel it. But the absolute worst grief experience belonged to my mother’s eldest aunt, and Estella’s elder sister, Mary Jane, affectionately known as ‘Auntie’. She went from a vibrant, bossy family matriarch to a bedridden, shell of herself within eighteen months after Estella perished. ‘Auntie’ began to suffer micro strokes and her once-controlled type-2 diabetes went wildly out of control. She was weighed down emotionally by grief and the bone-deep belief that there was something more she could have done to ensure that Estella lived after the very severe stroke she suffered. There was nothing that could have been done and ‘Auntie’ took the best possible care of Estella during the almost three months her body held on after the stroke decimated her mind. ‘Auntie’ suffered such debilitating amounts of grief that her disordered mental health took a physical toll. She passed away just twenty-five months later. That was when I began to truly understand the importance of mental health care and treatment.
I know that mental health care is important. I know it to the very center of my being. That knowledge has been supported by years of scientific and psychological research. Mental Health impacts not only how one feels emotionally, but often it has negative and positive effects on the physical body as well. When one is taking care of their mental health, their physical health and environment are easier to take care of as well. Good mental health has been shown to create a more positive outlook overall. Studies have shown that better mental health is directly related to having better, stronger interpersonal relationships. Further research shows that bettering mental health increases workplace efficacy and satisfaction. It helps one to think more clearly and be more effective at problem-solving and with overall coping mechanisms. Moods are improved and self-esteem is higher when mental health care is a priority. Even more, despite all stereotypes, creativity is boosted by one having good mental health as well.
Understanding the benefits of good mental health has shaped many of my academic and future goals. In the fall, I will attend the illustrious Tuskegee University and major in psychology. Ultimately, I want to gain the necessary education and credentials to empower me to both help destigmatize mental health in the Black community and help in advocating against and helping to end the racial biases found in the criminal justice system. The Black community has often been avoidant of mental health and the psychology field as a whole. Only about twenty-five percent of Black people have admitted that they have sought out therapy for their mental health. That low number might be in part because only four percent of therapists in the United States are Black, compared to the almost seventy-three percent of therapists and mental health professionals who are White. Unfortunately, many people who have braved the stigma and have gone to therapy sessions have had horror stories about the experience. I believe that growing the number of Black therapists and Black mental health professionals might help further destigmatize the taboo of getting mental health help. Furthermore, increasing the number of mental health professionals who understand foundational truths many Black and Brown people live every day, could help to create better treatment outcomes for those who do seek help.
My preliminary study of mental health has also helped me to understand myself and my relationships with others better. It is very interesting to me that whenever the topic of relationships is brought forward, most people immediately think of romantic relationships. That automatic default to hetero-normative, cis-romantic relationships of thinking in others can be harmful to people’s mental health and exploration. Friendships are vital to good mental health. They create extra-familial support systems, and they can also help to build confidence and communication skills. I have built some great friendships. I have some friends that I have known since sixth grade, and they are wonderful people. We do wonder how going off to seven different colleges in four different states will affect our friendship, but I hope that the relationship-building techniques I will learn as I study psychology will help us to maintain our friendships.
While I am still building a true understanding of the world at large, I have reached a few conclusions. Everyone can benefit from getting some help with their mental health. I believe that the pandemic and the lockdowns taught many people that there are many, many reasons why mental health care is vital to one’s physical state. I understand that everyone needs to take time to maintain their mental health. Every person is most fulfilled when they feel good both mentally and physically, and when they are making a positive impact on their community. Mental health care helps with body and mind well-being and it can even be beneficial to the world at large when one uses one’s talents and creativity to bring about books and works of art that help others to maintain their mental health.