On February 9th, 2025, my life changed forever. My boyfriend, Dillon, was involved in a fatal motorcycle accident. The days that followed were filled with shock, sorrow, and an overwhelming sense of loss. I couldn’t stop thinking about what his final moments must have been like—how scared he must have felt, surrounded by strangers, knowing he might not survive. I carried a deep sense of guilt that I couldn’t be there to comfort him or say goodbye.
Then, a few weeks later, I received a message from someone named Riley— the EMT who had responded to Dillon’s accident. Within the boundaries of HIPAA, Riley patiently answered my questions and shared as much as he could about that day. Through his words, I learned that Dillon was not alone. Riley had done everything in his power to keep him calm and cared for in his final moments. That simple act of compassion meant the world to me as the patients family.
Since then, Riley and I have formed a really amazing friendship. His stories from the field have opened my eyes to the emotional weight that first responders carry and the deep empathy required in their work. One story in particular stays with me: a call involving two young girls who had been harmed extensively by their father. One of them, gravely injured, wouldn’t speak to anyone— except Riley. He was the only adult she trusted, and before she was taken to the hospital, she handed him her stuffed animal. Tragically, she didn’t survive. But in her final moments, she wasn’t just a patient—she was seen, heard, and cared for because Riley made sure of that and its a trend I have noticed with throughout all his calls.
That’s what compassion is. It’s about showing up fully for people in their most vulnerable moments. It’s not just a feeling; it’s an action, a responsibility, and a calling. My experience with grief— and my growing friendship with someone who lives compassion daily— has fueled my passion to become a nurse. I want to be the kind of caregiver who brings calm in chaos, dignity in suffering, and light in even the darkest hours.
While we can not always save a life, we can always touch one. That truth drives me every single day. Compassion is not optional in healthcare— it is essential. For many patients, being in an ambulance, calling 911, going to the hospital is not normal for them. Again, for many it is
most likely, the scariest day of their life's. And I am the one who will be approaching them and trying to help them and the best way to try and calm the nerves down for them is compassion. And I am committed to leading with it in everything I do weather healthcare, or just life in general.