Although no birth is “normal”, mine was far from ordinary. What is supposed to be the happiest day of most parents’ lives became the scariest to mine. My twin sister and I were born three months early and both two pounds, but I got the shorter end of the stick. One complication we both suffered was staph infections we contracted in the hospital. Mine crossed into my brain and grew into an abscess on the left side, which affected the whole right side of my body. Unfortunately, this wasn’t noticed until around five months after I was born, when it was tennis ball-sized. The neurosurgeon at Children’s Hospital told us it was the biggest brain abscess they had seen. I had surgeries to drain the abscess and was sent home on intravenous antibiotics for four months. I developed Cerebral Palsy on my right side, which is a forever condition.
By the time I was 15, I had 66 casts to stretch out my leg and over 13 plastic braces to pull my heel down to walk as CP causes muscle tightness and weakness. Each cast was on my leg for a week, stretching my calf progressively more each time. Even though each cast was waterproof, swimming with a heavy boot on my leg wasn’t always fun. I had to go to school, doctors' appointments and my friends' houses in casts, and, worst of all, these chambers that kept my leg captive for weeks at a time were so uncomfortable. I remember dreading each cast because, while everyone else was able to run, play on the monkey bars, swim fast, and not be constrained by anything, I was confined to a leg anchor.
When I was 8 years old, I joined the local swim team. Within three years of being on that team, progress with my strokes and speed had stopped. Kids younger than me and new to swimming were faster than me. I constantly felt as though I was worthless and couldn’t be loved or recognized for who I truly was because my disability was holding me back. Although swimming made me feel alive, there was always something so depressing about the feeling I would get whenever I would go into a race. No matter how hard I tried, how many years I swam for, or how hard I kicked my legs, I would always come into last place. By 11, I knew what it was like to lose. Even after eight surgeries, nothing had changed. I hadn’t looked at myself any differently or felt any improvement.
After a few years, I realized that mindset was not productive. I decided I wanted to focus on myself and change the view I had of who I was physically and mentally. By eighth grade, I reached that goal. I even gave the graduation speech for my eighth-grade class about my struggles and coming this far in my life. On my 17th birthday, I was elected captain of my high school team. I realized then that I didn’t have to be the fastest or the most popular swimmer to be noticed. My teammates saw me as a fighter who never gives up and works hard for everything I have accomplished. Whenever I tell people about my disability, they end up feeling terrible for me, but it’s just life for me. My disability has shaped me and who I am. It has taught me to be so appreciative of what and who I have in my life.